12/18/2021 wedding - is this selfish?

Its not Dec 24-26 so I don’t think thats selfish.

Not really. It might be nice for most people. So maybe they're missing one night of Holiday parties but it's not like you're doing it every year. If there are people who are gonna be slammed with $1200 flights per person at arguably the most delay ridden time of year I'd just send them a note and say "I'd love for you attend but I know travel is insane this time of year, please feel no pressure to fly out. Because of Covid we had limited date choices. Zoom in for the ceremony and/or we can party with you next time you visit" Something like that.

I feel like it's OK. Hopefully Covid will be better, and you can include some holiday cheer! Have you been receiving negative feedback? As long as your nearest and dearest are fine with it, no big deal.

Not at all!

I think it's fine. It doesn't fall on the holiday and people may be lucky enough to be off work already. Though, if you're worried about your wedding being close to a holiday, you should probably sort that out right when you start planning rather than waiting till less than 3 months out.

I don’t think it’s selfish. (Our wedding was less than a month after Christmas).
Some people that have to travel for Christmas may not be able to make it if travel is also required for the wedding. It might be a welcome distraction from the stresses of the season (shopping, wrapping, baking).
We had some family who chose to skip traveling for Christmas so they could travel for the wedding. So that’s something that may happen as well. At this point I think it’s too late to worry about if was selfish since it’s done and can’t be changed. So don’t give yourself the added stress. You are fine don’t worry.

You’re fine! It’s not selfish at all.

As long as you gave guests advance notice with save the dates, it’s fine. One of my best friends got married on Dec 21 in the middle of the week because it was a sentimental date for them and they had a full house.

I don't think it's selfish at all. Christmas is a great time for love and family and friends being together so why not do that at a wedding .

Your fine I think it would be fun

I don't think it's a big deal.

It's not selfish at all!

Hi ! I don't think that's selfish at all ! I would love to be invited to such a wedding, something nice to celebrate still while waiting for Christmas...

I will preface this comment by saying you have done absolutely nothing wrong in scheduling your wedding for the date that works for you and your VIP's.

I don't think its selfish in the way that most people think of it. But, if you think of it as lacking some consideration for others....hmmmm it could border on that to some people. Because how you consider something is completely from your own point of view. If I live far from you and have to travel the weekend before Christmas: I might think its inconsiderate. I live in the same city: not inconsiderate at all.

Not at all! It’s your wedding and you have it when you want to! People can still go and celebrate Christmas ON christmas and they will plan accordingly so don’t you fret!

I’m doing 12/20….the Monday of Christmas week. Lol it’s not selfish at all! Most of our guests don’t care and haven’t said it’s interferes with any plans. I’ve had 100 out of 150 RSVP already so obviously it’s not much of an issue. I was courteous and sent out the invites early so people can plan accordingly

I don't think it is. people are more than welcome to rsvp no if they can't make it. that's the date that worked best for YOU.

I think this is fine, because Christmas is a Saturday this year. If it were a Monday or the middle of the week it would be a little more difficult, but this should be fine!