2 different churches

Stop worrying about making everyone else happy and just think about what the two of you want. Your families aren't the ones getting married here. Is there any middle ground for the two of you? Could you get married in one church and have the marriage blessed by the other church?

You could do two separate ceremonies but that's also a lot to do overall. I wish there was some way to blend the two together smoothly but I can't quite think of one since I understand for Catholics you go thru mass and what not for weddings too

I know it's hard, but I think the two of you need to decide alone (just the two of you) what makes you most comfortable. It's also important to discuss in which faith you will raise any future children (if you want to have any) - it woudl make sense to marry in whatever faith that would be. You're just not going to make everyone happy in this situation, and honestly, your families should have no say whatsoever in your ceremony. If they're paying for your wedding, they definitely get say in the reception, food, etc but in terms of ceremony do not let them influence you.

If you're both practicing and involved in your respective churches, I highly recommend discussing this issue with your pastors. Sometimes catholic churches will allow a convalidation (church validation of an "outside" marriage) but this is highly dependent on the specific priest and diocese. I'm not sure about Christian churches.

If it were me, I would probably choose to disappoint everyone and get married by a non-denominational minister or secular official and then continue practicing your respective faiths.

Does the whole church not recognizing your marriage thing bother either of you? Because if the answer is no, do what you want!
Realize that him getting married in the Catholic Church could be a real big pain in the butt for him. But if you plan to raise your children Catholic, it might be important.
I think his church will recognize your marriage whether you get married at his, yours or in the woods.
Do what you want to do, but dont get married in a church just because that's what your parents want.
This is your wedding, and your decision. They'll just have to deal.

The Catholic Church might not marry you if he's not Catholic or confirmed, so ask about that before worrying about anything.
Some Christain churches have rules too, so it might be worth asking his church too.
Could you ask a Pastor or Deacon to do a ceremony outside the church? I know some will agree to do an outdoor wedding and bless the couple. That might be a good option regardless.

Y’all sound like us!! Except he’s Catholic and I’m Baptist. We’re combining them together. We’re not doing the traditional vows. Plus we’re not having a Catholic mass.

First off, Catholic is a type of Christian. So you are both Christian, just different types.

And you can get married in the Catholic church if you follow its procedures, even though he is not Catholic. You will have to promise to do your best to have the children raised Catholic; he doesn't have to promise anything. But you'll need to go through marriage counseling, etc., in the Catholic church.

Second, to have your marriage recognized in the Catholic church, one of four things needs to happen. The simplest is to have it in a Catholic church, with a Catholic priest.

The second is to have it with a priest in another suitable location, but this is available only in two locations:

https://www.brides.com/story/catholics-can-now-marry-outdoors-in-two-us-cities

The third is to get a "dispensation from canonical form" from the Catholic church to allow you to get married in his church. The link below has some information about this.

http://canonlawmadeeasy.com/2007/08/23/can-a-catholic-ever-get-married-in-a-non-catholic-churc/

You have to have a good reason, but for at least some priests, that reason can be something like maintaining family harmony if his family is really opposed to marriage in the Catholic church. You should talk to your local priest about this.

Fourth, there is a process called convalidation that can be used for couples who have previously had a marriage that was not recognized by the church. However, this is disfavored, because any sex after the nonrecognized marriage and before the convalidation is considered a sin. And the convalidation can take a while. See this link:

https://www.idotaketwo.com/blog/marriage-convalidation-2/

So, you have to think about how important it is to you to have your marriage recognized in the Catholic church. A Catholic who chooses to disobey the dictates of the Church is no longer considered to be in a state of grace and cannot receive holy communion. So if you care about this, you should work things out with a priest ahead of time.

But ultimately, the question is what you and your FI want, not what your families want. Your families are at odds, and are likely to remain so. But you and your FI have to be on the same page as to how you are going to handle religion, including not only the wedding but church attendance afterward, and how you are going to raise children if you plan to have them.

View Quoted Comment Wow. This has been an educational response. I’ll have to look into these options with him. We both planned on meeting with a priest at my church and pastor at his to inquire about what steps we need to take. Thank you for all of this!

Definitely think about how important religion is to either of you. Are you both practicing or nonpracticing? I understand its important for both your families but you two are the ones that are getting married. If you do decide to marry in a Christian church, it would be a smoother process. If you decide to marry in a Catholic church, I suggest you contact the church as soon as you can because they will require your FH to become Catholic. There's so many steps to a Catholic marriage - if you can, get a meeting together with the priest so he can explain the steps. I grew up Catholic and my FH was Christian, but nonpracticing - he never attended church but I went to mass almost weekly so it was important to me to get married in a Catholic church. He converted to Catholicism because although he believes in God, it didn't really matter what religion he was. We just met with the priest 2 weeks ago and they do asks if you're both Catholic, if either have been divorced (because it will have to be annulled), you'll have to partake in a couples retreat or pre-wedding prep program. There's a lot to it so look at both options. Or if neither of you are practicing you can do a wedding ceremony pretty much anywhere! It doesn't need to be inside a church.

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A Catholic church will definitely not require her FH to become Catholic:

http://www.aboutcatholics.com/beliefs/can-a-catholic-marry-a-non-catholic/

The priest will ask if your FH is Catholic, because the procedures are a little different if he is not, but he is not required to convert. See my response, above, for the options if Catholicism is important to her. Obviously, if Catholicism is not important to her, there are many more options.

And once again, Catholicism is a form of Christianity. So the options are not between a "Christian church" and a Catholic church. They are between a Catholic church and a Protestant church, both of which are Christian.

View Quoted Comment Thank you for that first part about Catholics being Christian.

Don't worry about what everyone else wants, It's about what you want! Do what makes you happy.