2nd Job For Wedding

I already have 2 jobs (1 full time, 1 part time), and also help financially support my sickly mother (who lives in another state). My FH makes 3x what I do, and he was very fair in understanding what I was able to contribute. I put in all my savings for a car into our first deposits, saved enough for my expenses, and tried my best to do my share based on my income. He definitely has financed most of this.

Wedding planning has by far been the most chronically stressed I've ever been. If you are not forced to, then don't get a second job. Put your pride aside, it's a really stressful journey with just 1 job and planning the wedding (which IS another job in itself).

No, I just worked more overtime when I can. Me and FH get about the same pay but he has less bills so he doesnt mind pulling more weight on payments when he can. I thought about getting a PT but i didnt want to be too stressed plus my jobs let me do a good amount of OT when I need.

I am considering picking up a part time job during the holidays this year for some extra wedding money. We can afford the day we planned on just what we can save from our regular work but I want so extra money so I can buy silly unimportant things that I don't need but want for the wedding and so I can also feel better about spending $125 on shoes.

I am a hairstylist in a salon suite but I am working at another salon 10 hours a week just for wedding money.

I began selling Mary Kay products to help pay for my wedding. I have friends who LOVE makeup! Plus they teach you everything you need to know about the business. It wasn't hard to start and I have made good money doing it. Plus I did it on my own time, which was ideal with trying to plan a wedding and work a full-time job.

I think this is only a good idea if you can you swing it without putting extra pressure on the relationship. Since FH and I don't see eachother a ton bc of our differing work schedules, it didn't make sense for us. FH actually is the one who contributes less bc he has more bills so he picks up a shift or two of OT but that's about all. I would only do little side jobs for extra money if they could be during the time I don't see FH anyway.

I have my son half the week with some days alternating so it's hard to get a 2nd job for me so I just try to work overtime as much as I can at my job. I pretty much work through lunch every day which burns me out a little but it is nice being able to put a little more aside for the wedding and getting credit cards paid down faster so we can afford a bigger mortgage since he wants to have a child in the future.

We opted to take out a small loan to pay for both the wedding and the honeymoon. It worked better for us than finding second jobs and not having any time for each other and just enjoying our lives.

Nope. Don't feel bad that your fiance makes more than you. You guys are a team. My fiance makes like 5x what I make and we have never expected me to be able to split our costs 50/50. Even as I continue to get raises, his raises are always going to outweigh mine because of his profession. I would be killing myself to keep up with him. I put what I can towards the wedding, but at the end of the day its all the same, our money. Save your free time for your fiance.

I'm considering it. However I am currently a stay at home mom to our 2 year old and I am the one who drops off and picks up our 1st grader from school.
So finding a baby sitter and someone to do the drop offs/pick ups is hard! And I'd basically be working to pay for child care. It's kinda frustrating but I have had some luck selling items we no longer need on facebook resale groups.

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This. Every couple handles their finances differently, but you should be thinking of yourselves as a team. You shouldn't feel like you need to take on an extra job so you can pay for half of the wedding. You should talk to FH about this and see if this is something you guys agree on. I know my FH would rather have me home with him and well-rested than taking on a second job so I could pay 50% of our expenses when we have plenty of money together to live comfortably.