2Nd Time around

It is nicer if you can include your fathers -- if they are interested and can perhaps make a local wedding. If they cannot reasonably attend anyhow, then it does not matter if you have the wedding in the mountains.

Added later: Could you do the actual marriage in the city so your fathers could be there? It may be the event that makes them joyful they are still alive. Then go up the mountain for the continuing celebration.

View Quoted Comment When we started planning the event everyone was healthy and willong to attend this was a year and a half ago. We are now 90 days until the event and everything has been paid for booked and invitations are printed and ready to go out.

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Sure, these problems cannot always be anticipated. can you arrange video sharing of the wedding? You may be able to use meet.jit.si for free, if your fathers are able to get that tested out beforehand.

View Quoted Comment That what we were thinking

When you get married later in life, it’s not unusual to have family members who have passed. My husband and I are a similar age range to you, and we were missing all grandparents, my husband’s mother, and several aunts & uncles on both sides. It’s unavoidable.


I would definitely arrange a wedding keeping my older family members in mind, but since you said this sprang up later in the planning process I can understand there’s a point you can’t change plans. I’d definitely try to set up a way for them to watch remotely. Maybe you can arrange a time to sit and go through pictures or the wedding video with them to have a personal time.