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3 hour cocktail hour? Is that normal?

Sabrina, on June 2, 2018 at 12:21 PM Posted in Community Conversations 0 29

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So I previously posted on feeling weird about not knowing anyone at the wedding my husband is a groomsmen in today. Well the groomsmen got given itenarys and oh my goodness I feel even worse now. The plan is to have the ceremony at 3pm. Finishing around 3.30, 3.45 at the latest. (the instructions then state have your dates uber themselves to the reception) and they will take photos at a secret location and be at the reception around 6.30pm!!! So when I thought I was going to be alone for maybe a hour at photos and an hour for dinner turned into 3 hours for photos and a hour for dinner. Not to mention the 4 hours prior when my husband needs to get ready with the guys in their hotel suite. I felt terrible leaving our guests for an hour while we took photos but 3 wow. Ready for today to be over and the wedding hasn't even started yet.

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Latest activity by falkenmarried, on June 2, 2018 at 10:43 PM

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Tara · on June 2, 2018 at 12:27 PM
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Yikes that sounds terrible. Do you not get to eat dinner with him either? Who does a 3 hour cocktail hour😑 id be upset too
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Gaby · on June 2, 2018 at 12:27 PM
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😫😫 oh man sorry to hear that. Maybe try to talk to as many people as possible so it doesn't feel like a drag. Good luck today!
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JustKidding · on June 2, 2018 at 12:30 PM
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I would be retracting any gift I was going to give at the wedding. This is so rude.
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Ciara · on June 2, 2018 at 12:30 PM
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They better have some amazing hors d'oeuvre! I think that 3 hours in completely unnecessary! I also doubt it'll take that long, hopefully! Do you have the option of going home for that time? Good luck today!
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Sabrina · on June 2, 2018 at 12:30 PM
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No I don't. They have a head table and the groom texted me to let me know there is no space for me at the head table where do I want to sit. Which threw me for a loop cause I don't know anyone.
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Sabrina · on June 2, 2018 at 12:31 PM
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Nope. Hope is almost 3hours away.
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Tara · on June 2, 2018 at 12:33 PM
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Head tables seem so weird. And kinda mean keeping your guest away from their date. If i were you and wasnt very close with them i wouldnt even go. I hope it goes okay for you though!
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Jessica · on June 2, 2018 at 12:36 PM
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After that I'd just pretend I'm sick with allergies or something and stay home allllll daaaaaaaay
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Priscilla · on June 2, 2018 at 12:36 PM
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I have a 7 hour gap inbetween my wedding and reception (long story). But I made sure to invite all the significant other with us. They can hang out on the party bus with us. Its not fair to leave people behind that long. Sorry you have to go through that
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Sabrina · on June 2, 2018 at 12:38 PM
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Well my husband just informed me that the cocktail hour starts at 6.30pm but they want guests to go to the reception venue after the cremeony, gosh I hope they have entertainment and food cause this seems so silly to me.
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Tanya · on June 2, 2018 at 12:44 PM
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I went to a wedding like that where they had a two hour cocktail hour. The bride wanted 900,000 pictures of her on the beach with her wedding party. My fiancé was in the wedding so he had to go off on this two hour photo shoot while I sat by myself at the table. They ran out of food during cocktail hour and the dj was told he couldn’t play music until the bride arrived. It was awedul and everyone was annoyed! I tried to make the best of it and talked with people as best I could. Luckily everyone was just as annoyed so we all just talked about how much it sucked. Sorry you have to go through that. Hopefully there’s at least good food and music.
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Tia_Fred · on June 2, 2018 at 12:50 PM
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Tbats just plan rude and then yo top it off u can't sit with him at dinner either oh no I would be furious and wouldnt wanna go.
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Jessi · on June 2, 2018 at 1:16 PM
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Your threads about this wedding should be Pinned as what not to do to your guests! I’m so sorry you are having to go through this, it is completely selfish and inconsiderate what they are doing.
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MOB So Cal · on June 2, 2018 at 1:20 PM
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Can you use that after-ceremony Uber to go shopping or to see a movie on your own, and show up at the reception ~6:30? From what you've described, they certainly haven't taken your needs into account -- so, I'd find a way to entertain myself that doesn't include sitting awkwardly with a bunch of strangers for 3 hours! (Or, go back to your hotel and take a nap/sit by the pool/whatever!) So sorry! I know you said you are from NZ -- please don't think all Americans are like your husband's friends -- they sound like JERKS!
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HowCo Industries · on June 2, 2018 at 1:26 PM
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I've been following this and it's like a "What Not To Do!" Normal circumstances I'd suggest your husband ask a couple questions or just figure they've got some plan and not to worry. As it stands, honey, you should prepare for everything! Pack a bag with snacks, comfy shoes, sunscreen, an umbrella, anything you might need for the absolute worst possible scenerio. (Including both cash and a card, cause I got a feeling if there's anything it'll be a cash bar "for your convenience.")
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Going to the chapel · on June 2, 2018 at 1:30 PM
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This couple doesn't have a clue how to treat their guests. If I were you, I'd stay at the hotel and skip the ceremony, then show up at the cocktail hour at 6:30 pm. "Oh, Sabrina has a terrible headache. She'll try to come later."
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Katy · on June 2, 2018 at 1:41 PM
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If cocktail hour starts at 6:30 what on earth are people doing in the meantime? I was going to say if it really was a 3 hour cocktail hour I'd be drunk af by the time the wedding party got there lol
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The Nuptials · on June 2, 2018 at 1:48 PM
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Did it stated a 3hr cocktail hour? I have assumed based on what you wrote that the cocktail hour or reception will begin at 6:30pm and that you are to go back to your hotel etc until then. So a gap, and one where they are not hosting snacks/beverages. I could be wrong...
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Saydee · on June 2, 2018 at 1:51 PM
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I second this. I would skip wedding and just go to the reception. That's the only thing that you actually rsvpd for. That's ridiculous that they make you wait that long, and then the way it was presented that there isn't enough room makes me think that other spouses will be with the wedding party
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Sabrina · on June 2, 2018 at 2:10 PM
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After the ceremony it states guests to go to the reception. Then it says cocktail hour at 6.30pm. Some of their guests are driving in from a couple hours away so they wouldn't have hotels to go back to. I guess they would have to figure out how to entertain themselves in the interim period.
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