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Lizbeth, on June 2, 2019 at 3:20 AM Posted in Planning 0 21

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I'm sick of it all.
I'm wishing we never started this while wedding thing and continued our lives as it was.
We have been together 13 yrs
Living together for 11
Many considered married already, should have left it as that

Never thought planning a wedding can be dis stressful
Never thought trying to DIY everything for the sake of saving money would be torture. I rather just pay for everything at this point.
Never thought my fiance best men would be the ones causing drama and acting like catty women
Never wanted a bridal party but here I am with 2 maids of honor and 2 bridesmaid wishing I should have stuck to none.
And as a teacher I would not recommend planning a wedding for the summer because planning a wedding and balancing report cards and all of tje end of year madness creates insanity!

Still havent had my dress altered bc of a problem with David's bridal and my wedding is July 3rd!

I'm so over it all
I am not the one bit excited.

Everyone told me not to do the wedding bc "we're pretty much married" and I wanted tje whole wedding experience but now here I am for wishing I hadn't

If you read through this all thank you for allowing and listening to my rant
Am I the only one our here like this?
Ugh 😔

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Latest activity by Kylee, on June 2, 2019 at 1:50 PM

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Formerbride · on June 2, 2019 at 8:40 AM
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Don't fret, my wedding is June 14th and I don't have my dress with me yet! Honestly, this last week I have felt a lot like you. I was totally burnt out. Sick of planning. Sick of talking to vendors. I chose not to the DIY route and my MOH wants to make my seating chart and table numbers. Already, the small discussion on that subject makes me wants to buy some stupid number table numbers and move on with my life. Wedding planning is a lot. I can't imagine how some people plan a wedding for 2 years! I think a year is even too long. You're stressed now but that stress will end. I think when the day actually comes you will feel elated!
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Erin · on June 2, 2019 at 10:45 AM
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No!!!! You are not the only one. Girl, my wedding is June 28 and the billionaires who own my location venue are no longer business partners and the fighting has gotten so ugly over this property that a judge slapped an injunction on it! EVERYONE is barred from it now and doesn’t look like it’ll be resolved in time for the wedding . So with less than a month to go I don’t have a venue OR catering. Believe you me you are not the only one over this whole wedding process. I’m so stressed out, wish I could cancel. My awesome wedding planner found a beautiful alternative but that means an extra 10k! 😒🤬😭

I’m one of those people who has been planning and saving for two years. To watch it all go down the drain with less than 30 days to go ... let’s just say that going to boxing isn’t working.

I know that your situation will be resolved and will work itself out. Even though I cant take my own advice, try to stay positive ❤️.
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Suaneris · on June 2, 2019 at 10:49 AM
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My grandma says its normal to feel like this and even more when there's just a few days to the big day
I feel you but chill everything is gonna be fine and years later you might laugh about it
Its gonna be beautiful
Positive vibes
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Pirate & 60s Bride · on June 2, 2019 at 11:25 AM
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Hang in there, all brides to be! The last 30 days suck. The stress. The last details you no longer care about. The stress between you & your partner or others. Ugh.

But it will be worth it. Try to let go on the day of and take time to enjoy amazing moments & feelings. There are a lot! First look pics. The happy tears of a loved one caught on camera. All the love of friends & family. Your vows & first kiss. The blissful reception.
❤️ 🎉 🥂
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Formerbride · on June 2, 2019 at 12:41 PM
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I'm so sorry this is happening to you. What a nightmare. I hope you find a better alternative in your budget!
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Melle · on June 2, 2019 at 12:51 PM
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It happens a lot where wedding planning makes someone jaded. It happened to me many times where I just felt like wow forget having a wedding! It is alot of work and money and time spent planning this one event. But honestly I'd regret not having it so all that planning I'm sure will come to fruition because when are all these people going to celebrate you altogether on this one day?
When you get overwhelmed just take a break and compose yourself and go do something fun with your groom.
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Kaleka · on June 2, 2019 at 1:03 PM
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Hun you aren't the only one! FH and I have been together almost 8 years and planning this wedding makes me wish we just elpoed. With 111 days to go am completely over it all!!! I don't feel as beautiful in my dress as I did when I bought it, am working overtime to maintain our budget, my 10 year old is now out of school for summer break, and living in Florida we just entered hurricane season. So with my wedding being September 22, am beyond terrified we will have a hurricane 😑 I just can't take the stress any longer!!!!
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Dedicated May 2019
Mrsblair · on June 2, 2019 at 1:06 PM
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The entire week before my wedding I was pissed about having a wedding, why didn’t we just elope, etc. Having that attitude is actually my biggest regret about my wedding. I ruined the entire week leading up to it with my 💩 attitude and outlook, made myself miserable, and treated my mom not so great. The wedding itself was the best day of my life and I am so happy to be married now.
Take things in strides, try to enjoy the process if you can. You’ll only do this once and you don’t want to look back and be like “why was I such a downer”
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Lizbeth · on June 2, 2019 at 1:09 PM
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Oh my goodness I'm so sorry!! That's so upsetting I can only imagine how you feel. Thank goodness for the wedding planner, I would have just cried and cancelled everything.
I'm so sorry you're going through this but staying positive will definitely help.
I'm trying to stay positive myself lol
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Devoted July 2019
Lizbeth · on June 2, 2019 at 1:10 PM
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Thank you!

Yes my friend who just got married told me she felt the same way and had a blast the day of..
I'm just trying to see the final day and think positive
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Lizbeth · on June 2, 2019 at 1:11 PM
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Your comment was everything! Thank you so much!

And yes this is causing so much tension between my FH and I, I'm not caring about the small detailed I so deeply wanted.
The weekends aren't enough time to do all the things needed
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Nyree · on June 2, 2019 at 1:13 PM
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I am so sorry you are going through this! I’m somewhat on the same boat. My “husband” and I have been together for 25 years and decided to make it official! Money is tight since we have two kids one being very sick.
But my biggest issue is my oldest sister who always needs to be the center of attention!!! She told me last year when I announced that we are finally making it official to tell her right away the date because she wants to plan her vacations😒 So we sent out STDs and yet she still asks when it is since she really wants to plan her vacations!!!! What The Heck!!! Did she not read the STDs!! I am so tempted to not invite her at all!!

But honestly you need to go through with this and it’s really hard now but you might regret it later in life. You deserve to be a bride and have your day!! Lots of love to you! ❤️
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Devoted July 2019
Lizbeth · on June 2, 2019 at 1:13 PM
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You're right I probably would have always regretted it if I didn't go through this. I just didn't think it would come with this amount of stress bc of all the little tiny things
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Devoted July 2019
Lizbeth · on June 2, 2019 at 1:15 PM
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Positive thoughts for the weather on your day!
Isnt it so stressful to balance all this with a child and work. I'm so done lol

I just keep trying to think of the day of
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Lizbeth · on June 2, 2019 at 1:16 PM
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You're absolutely right!
I'm trying really hard not to take it out on my family as they are helping much more than I expected them too.
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Devoted July 2019
Lizbeth · on June 2, 2019 at 1:20 PM
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Oh no I'm so sorry that sounds frustrating and it sounds like you're dealing with it so calmly. I feel that no matter how long anyone has been together that we should all be able to have that opportunity to make it official if we choose too. I agree we all deserve to be brides❤ I hope it all works out for you! 💕💕
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Anna · on June 2, 2019 at 1:31 PM
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Just a short note to say Hang in there!
It will all be worth it. I think you are overwhelmed and trying to be super woman and super Bride.

Just breathe and go day by day..
Second by second if needed.
You are beautiful, your dress and wedding will be beautiful and a wonderful day!

Looking back, you will see it was all worth it.
You deserve your day, just because you have been together so long should show you that it is really just a renewal of the love you already share.

Lots of hugs and positive vibes coming your way! ❤❤❤

Ps you can talk me down from the ledge next year this time, if you don't mind
Get some rest!
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Pirate & 60s Bride · on June 2, 2019 at 1:38 PM
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You're very welcome!!! It was the toughest point in wedding planning for us too. Keep in mind, most men don't care about the details as much so try to give him 1-3 choices if you really want his input so he can choose. My hubby & I had a major "maybe we shouldn't get married!" spat two days before our wedding due to house guests and final wedding stress (and him getting sick). Ugh.
Also keep in mind, nobody notices the details! So consider cutting where possible. For example, if you're DIY-ing centerpieces that have three unique pieces (flower vases, lighting, crafts--just stick to one big item like a lantern with fairy lights and move on). Ditch favors, nobody cares. They may remember how you look but more importantly if they felt love/fun, yummy food/drinks, maybe the venue (uplights are cheap and can make a huge impact if you're worried about venue decor). So, it's most important you & your hubby enjoy your day because your fun, ease, vibes will set the mood for everyone else. Take a moment now to breathe and maybe assess where you're at and what you can scrap/change.
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Dedicated June 2019
Amy · on June 2, 2019 at 1:45 PM
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I feel the same way, just over two weeks left for me. I’m glad to see it’s pretty common, that others feel the same.
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Kaleka · on June 2, 2019 at 1:48 PM
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All I can do is think about my wedding day instead off all the in pending stress of it all.
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