4 day bachelorette party?!

I agree that 4 days is excessive.

If you can't/don't want to go the whole time, that's fine.

1. She shouldn't be planning her own bachelorette

2. "No" is a complete sentence

3. Wait it out, someone may talk her into something affordable

These bachelorette parties are ridiculous. Most of the ones I've been to are glorified girls' nights not super expensive weekends away.

Her MOH is planning her bachelorette party, with her (the brides) input of course. I think this long 4 day trip is what she wants. But that's just so long for me to be away from my life and obligations here!

I had a friend who did a week at the beach and they told everyone to come for as long as you could/wanted. If they do end up doing that and you do want to attend, maybe you could only go for part of if?

Have you talked to her? Mine is about the same since they decided to take me on a cruise but I do have some bridesmaids that said they just can't afford it and I was understanding

I had a 4 day Bachelorette party however the girls planned the whole thing, she should be talking to yall about it before assuming everyone has the time and money to go. And she should definitely not be planning it herself. You have every right to be pissed especially if not everyone agreed to the trip.

Her MOH and her other bridesmaid are planning the whole thing and they have not consulted with me once to ask my opinion or if I would be able to go. Especially since it's 3 week before my own wedding. I personally do not want to be gone that long, I would rather go up for 1 night and come home then next day. But I feel like a jerk for being the only one not attending the Full time. But I mean, they planned this whole thing themselves and with the brides help, I don't want to be the one Debbie downer that rains on her parade for not being excited about it.

Simply tell them no sorry , they should have consulted with everyone, if that's what the bride insist on is she paying for everybody??

That's insane. So many people are doing weekend long bachelorette parties and I just don't get it. Mine will be a single night and I'm happy it is lol.

Wow four days is alot. Explain that you can't stay for the whole four days. They should understand. Especially the bride.

Mine is looking like 3 days in another state. Im not planning anything beyond that. I have 1 maid that said she cant go but its fine we are having brunch all together when we get back

It's absurd. I don't know how and why women agree to spend their free time and disposable income of BPs instead of private vacations, but they do. Feel free to decline, and do so without a single regret. Although you don't even need an excuse, you've got one of the best; it absorbs four of the last 21 days before your wedding, and believe me, you will need that time (even if it's just to draw the shades and decompress).

Mine is Thursday-Sunday because it's out of state and requires a flight. I know atleast one of the girls is getting in on Friday and that's fine with me.

The older I get, the more common the multi-day trips are becoming. If this is one of your best friends, I wouldn't want to just skip it. Can you just go for the weekend? Maybe Friday night through Sunday?

Hard pass.

Just tell her you can only come for one night. You have other things going on and you're not able to stay for more than that. She should understand if she's in the same wedding planning process as you are.

I can't stand these vacation bachelorette/bachelor parties that you're just expected to attend when you're in the wedding party. It's very inconsiderate. I would tell her you can't go or can only come for one or two nights personally

That's 3.5 days too long.

Yes I am definitely only thinking about going for 1 or 2 days, she should understand. And I wasn't even considered in this decision in the first place. I want to be involved in her wedding activities and fun times in let life, but I'm planning my own wedding and will have a lot going on this summer. And I don't really wanna leave out of town for 4 days with people I don't know, and spend money on things when I should really be saving it since my own wedding is 3 weeks later. Thank you all for your input!!

I've been in many weddings personally and I'm not always able to go to every single event nor should you feel obligated to go. Your friend should totally understand...not cool that the MOH and other bridesmaids didn't consult you as well. My MOH and friends are planning a bachelorette party weekend away and they basically told me pick the location and they will take care of the rest. I'm having a small bridal party a total of 3 women, and only one won't be attending and I totally understand. I would never take it personally nor should any bride. If she and or the bridal party do...oh well that's their deal...lol