4 day bachelorette party?!

Mine was 3 days (also out of town). The people who came stayed for as long as they could and those who couldn't make it didn't. Go for as long as you can/what you can afford. Your friend will understand.

Most of the bachelorettes I've been on have been 3-4 days. It all depends on where you're going. Most of the places we went, it made more sense to stay multiple days so we could get a lot of stuff done.

Holy crap!!! That is insane.... and FH and I are questioning whether we can afford a 6 day honeymoon counting travel days.

You don't need to exclusively drink the entire time for a bachelorette party

I hate this new trend of bachelor/ette parties turning into vacations. It's so expensive and inconsiderate. You're getting married- good for you- any two consenting people can so why do I have to spend all this money on you? I HATE it. So rudeee.

@lucky most brides dont plan their Bachelorette parties, I'm not seeing how this is inconsiderate, or rude lol. If you have the money and the time there is nothing wrong with it. Again in "most" cases like mine the BP planned and paid for the entire thing, it was what they decided on . Only thing i was told was when my flight left.

I agree with LuckyAK. This wedding scenario is getting out of hand. Proposal boxes for the wedding party, many parties and showers where food, booze and gifts are expected ,hen parties turning into 5 day holidays, travel expenses, gifts for the bridal party, gifts for parents, wedding vendors whose hands are permanently frozen in the up position, gowns, cash bars, dollar dances etc.. YIKES.

I just got invited to one too for a 3 day weekend. Its in the middle of the summer in a very busy location, and probably going to be very expensive.. and i'm not in the wedding my FH is. However I will probably go for atleast one day and suck up the 3 hour drive

I feel it is excessive

Or do 1 day

That's way too much to expect of you, if it's close enough to you, go enjoy a night out and then get back to your own thing.

My moh is planning my bachelorette party 3 days in Vegas and we stay in LA so it's not that far but I truly understand if my bridesmaids can not go or don't want to go..but then again Vegas is 4hrs from us and we go all the time

Just do what you can, no need to feel bad about it. I'm sure she'll understand since your wedding is so close. Maybe instead of going out of town you could just take her out to dinner the weekend before. Good luck!

If the other bridesmaids and bride wanna go on a trip for 4 days there's nothing wrong w/ that. If you can't join in on the4 day trip there's also nothing wrong w/ that. The other bridesmaid will understand you have a packed schedule w/ your upcoming wedding and can't afford to be away for 4 days. The bride will be happy to see you even if it's for one day. Don't stress about it, let them enjoy the planning and the trip and you enjoy part taking in whatever you can.

Hmm. We have planned a 9 day session. Maybe its different for guys but there is a certain amount of nostalgia to get out of the system and that takes time!

Teen bachelorette party. Most of my bridesmaids live in a different state. It wouldn't be possible for us to do a one night thing. My maid of honor planned a getaway that she and I have been interested in for years. We invited the other bridesmaids to come if they want to. With the full understanding that it's expensive and probably not possible for most. No hard feelings. I don't think you should feel badly about saying no to this. I wouldn't hold that against my friends.

My friends offered to host since I didn't do a bridal party. We are going for four days, two weeks before the wedding. I have no assumptions that a bunch of friends will come anything longer than a day. I don't think she expects you to show up for the whole thing.

Because I live out of state from all my other bridesmaids they planned a 3 day weekend away so it wasn't too rushed with travel and everything. My MOH told the girls who couldn't make it that we'd be doing a 1 night party in early May and could come to that instead. Maybe suggest doing a dinner at some other point in time?

My bachelorette activities are 5 nights, but it coincides with both me and my MOH birthday and we always go away that time of year. Everyone is not going to everything and that's fine. Some people couldn't go and that was fine too. I love celebrations and going away so this combo worked for me. It is tough though just 3 weeks from your wedding. If you can't go, not even for 1 day, I'd say set up a nice dinner just you an her (your treat) as your I couldn't make it but I'm still excited for you. Or maybe even send her flowers the day before or when she returns to let her know you're thinking of her. This may seem like a lot, but I love my friends like family and if I can't make it to their event these are the things I'd normally do.

Mine is Friday to Monday but some people are leaving Sunday you can do whatever you like! Just as as long as you go I'm sure she'll be grateful