50 days until wedding, no wedding dress yet..

Make sure your consultant only puts you in dresses you can walk out with and alter immediately!

First things first, take a deep breath and relax! I agree with making lists and figuring out what's most important and working down the list. It will all come together! I'd get the dress first. Tuxes or suits are a lot easier to get in a short time. Stillwhite.com is a great place to find a dress. Other brides sells their gowns at great prices! I'd search online for a seamstress near you and call them to make sure they can fit you in. I planned my entire wedding in 8 weeks, had about 6 by the time I got my dress. So it can happen!! JCPenney has great suits for very reasonable prices, my husband gets all his from there. You can find nice bridesmaid dresses at David's Bridal or try a department store. Rent The Runway is an option too! You get to pick 2 sizes in a dress and a free backup dress. I'd start by finding a wedding dress and working from there.

This is definitely do able! I had an unfortunate mishap 30 days before my wedding where I had to go and get a new dress. I went to David's Bridal (I know not everyone's favorite) I walked in, explained I needed to buy off the rack and altered in less than 30 days. I ended up with an amazing dress that was less than $500 and WAAAAAYYYYY better than my original dress I picked out.

you can totally do this, good luck!

I would read the book, "A Practical Wedding." There are so many things that I thought I had to do a certain way, but you don't. I FaceTimed my best friend and my dad in to the dress shopping. I ended up buying a white, actual wedding dress from Ollie's Outlet store, but then met the district manager from the bridal store next to my house and haggled to buy the red one that they had been using in Christmas displays since I was 16 (because it was my dream dress, and I had said "That's my wedding dress!" every time I drove past it from the time I was 16.) You can buy your dress anywhere. Actually, right now is a great time because all the stores are selling or clearancing out homecoming dresses. I bought all of my bridesmaids dresses from Windsor in the mall that way.

We are doing a moderate budget wedding, with a lot of DIY. Things like flowers can be bought pre-arranged as Christmas boquets from Michaels. The most important thing is spending only what you are confortable with only on what you really want, or only on what you really don't want to deal with. (We are buying invitations because I am not paper pressing 200 invitations. F*** it, I'll pay somebody else to do that.) We are debating buying an iPhone and handing it to a bridesmaid to take photos, and skipping the photographer. We found a venue that decorates for free, but we are NOT cutting our guest list. We will cut costs wherever else we feel like, but we are NOT limiting friends and family. Do what you want, because it's your wedding.

Also, remember it's your wedding - not a parade. It doesn't have to have everything and it shouldn't be a spectacle. It's about you getting married, and if you get married in your favorite sundress, or without flowers, or have the reception at your house - big deal, you're still married to your dream man. I wish you all the best happiness and the best luck!