5,000 budget on wedding

Thanks Sabrina and I wish you all the same .. and to all other brides don't let anyone tell you how to experience your day. It's your day! Happy Planning Beauties!

Sabrina's over here like

Ceremony: All about the couple

Reception: a thank you to the guests attending

If you don't want/have the money/give a flying fuck about your guests, elope.

I would just elope, (what I wanna do right about now lol) and host a nice dinner with family. Or you can hire a taco truck or some other type of catering at someone's house OR rent a house on air b n b and bring in catering! we did this for my engagement party, but very very casual and it was very affordable and really fun!

Interesting thread to read, considering kierra "hid" most of her comments - so confusing.

I think Kierra gets the point that you guys highly disapprove of her family cooking which she explained the reason behind it.

She was simply aski g for advice, not for people to slam it in her face that she's not doing her wedding the way you all would find appropriate. So instead, if you disagree with the way someone does something, why not try kindly suggesting another approach?

Like "What about having people help with the decor instead & using the $2000 towards a caterer?" Maybe she felt that the better option since her family seems to have insisted on making the food.

& instead of being sarcastically rude about her 5k budget for 100 guests, try the same thing. "Honestly it's probably going to be near impossible to do the wedding for 5k in that area. But if you want to try & cut costs, you could do...."

Weddi g planning is stressful enough. Brides come here in an attempt to get support & advice & instead, you've all added to that. I understand you disagree with her but guess what? It's not your wedding & you're not on the guest list so you have clearly voiced your opinion on her choices, so why such a strong need to continue to badger her when you're not the one eating the food?

I'm fully aware I will be shipped in with Kierra & Sabrina but this thread got unnecessarily out of hand.

Personally I would rather spend the $2000 elsewhere than on a decorator, but that's just me. I'm a picky eater as is, if I attend a wedding that has food I'm u comfortable with, I am not offended. Disappointed, but not offended.

Yesssss Ana. I get frustrated with responses on here from people. Even when they are trying to be helpful, it can be so snarky and easy to read in a mean tone (even if not intended sometimes). I mean, it's an internet forum and people can do what they want. I just prefer to try to be helpful if I can. I feel people lose sight of that. But, again, internet.......so people say what they want to say.

@Kate - I agree with wanting to know something may be perceived as bad and in poor taste. I just feel like sometimes the way it's conveyed is not the most helpful. But again, internet and people can see on here how responses go. A lot of people do post without ever looking at anything and that is frustrating AF. Or people just want everyone to agree with them, which doesn't help at all either.

@Kate, I get its not a support group but it's also not meant for people to be rude to one another when they think they have a bad idea. There's a kinder way to tell someone they have a bad idea than getting sarcastic with them

I don't know if I find it a good mix, but there is a mix! I do agree sometimes not-so-gentle is needed, especially for some people. And I learned a LOT reading and from advice on here, so I stick around. I just get a little frustrated sometimes with people on some threads - but I also generally just move on with my life because that's been the vibe of this forum since I got here. I just continue to try to be more in the gentle camp (i'm sure I fail sometimes).

I think a lot of the WW members that have been on here for awhile, get tired of the same questions. But I agree, that most on WW asking these types of questions are newer members....perhaps they could lurk more (if on desktop version); but honestly...I think explaining why you think an idea might be bad would go along way & keep these threads a lot shorter...my God....10 pages on this?!?

I'm just gonna reiterate one more time

it is not rude to tell someone they have a bad idea

it is not rude to tell someone they have a bad idea

it is not rude to tell someone they have a bad idea

constructive criticism is a thing.

Please tell me this is a troll post

Telling someone they have a bad idea is not rude, I never said it was. It's the way you say it that can be rude.

Also, when I say support, I don't mean that as in we should agree & support everything they're doing, but if someone is clearly stressed, it doesn't hurt to try to calm them down, say their idea won't work or is bad, & give an alternative to their problem if you have one.

Tone is far more difficult to read on the internet, so I'm certain some posts are misinterpreted. I'd also like to add that on every thread there is genuine advice given, but if it contradicts what the OP wants to hear, it's often ignored.

Spend $5000 on a destination wedding! Boom, problem solved!

I'll bite. Giving your guests homemade pasta while the cost of room decorations is more than the minuscule catering budget is rude.

On Long Island going to Applebee's will cost you $50 for two people. Trying to host 100 people for $5000 just isn't going to happen. Lots of good, non rude, suggestions were given by the way. But self cooked pasta is not one of them!

She also said she had a building for $650 I believe as her venue. I wonder if they know it's self catered. I allow outside catering of your choice, but no license and COI they are not bringing that food into my venue.

ETA for clarification: She had the caterer and still had them booked and then the family offered to cook. I don't think the venue is aware of this change.

I know nothing of New York but it's expensive. Check out camps, nature centers and churches for inexpensive venue options. Also people will work with you and allow payment arrangements. Look for a college photography student who wants to make extra money and practice. From everything I've learned the pictures and the Gatherings of family and friends are the most important. Don't sweat the small stuff and maybe look for Facebook groups for like wedding swap buy/sell to get decorations. People you love are coming to celebrate your new found love and future. I started with an $8,000 budget and realized that's completely out of the question. We're still running tight at $12,000; but paying for things ahead of time will take a lot of the stress off of you. Save, save, save!! Maybe cut out the cable bill, cut out the extra night out to dinner, eat a lot of cheaper meals that you can use leftovers with, read some of Suze Orman's Financial tips on how to save money. Relax, 2 years gives you a lot of time to save and a little can go a long way! And don't be discouraged by snarky WW commentary. Remember we're a bunch of women, and it's the internet. Keep shopping ahead and saving. And leave the catering to someone else. It just makes it less stressful on your big day! I love to cook and my mom used to own a catering company, but I am not even trying to have my family cook for this event. Maybe you can consider an afternoon wedding and a luncheon with hors d'oeuvres? Happy planning and best of luck to you!!!! Congrats.

@Jolane we're not "a bunch of women", there's plenty of men on this site.