'6 Things you should never post [on social media] when you get engaged'

A FB friend got married over the weekend. I wasn't invited to the wedding (no hurt feelings, I haven't really spoken to him in 5+ years), but like every week he'd post an update of wedding planning and countdown and every time there'd be 4-5 comments "Hey where my invite?" "Hey do you have my address" And he'd never respond so I'm sure they weren't invited. I thought it was so rude!

That article is spot on, and I don't know why more people can't seem to understand that. I'm STILL angry with my mother because she posted details about my wedding multiple times, once she even tagged me and another time she tagged the location. I told her not to post anything in regards to it and then, reminded her each time she posted anyway. I got an obnoxious amount of friend requests after each one.

I also think wedding party shouldn't be called out on social media too much, personally. It feels the same as if you posted your guest list publicly to me - you are calling out the most important people and rubbing it in all the less important people's faces that they didn't make this specific cut. I made a private group for my WP to post that stuff on so it wasn't available for the rest of my friends list to see.

I don't think DH and I posted anything beyond "10 days to go" and that's about it. I wouldn't have dreamed of posting anything specific. Isn't that what WW is for? lol

I'm not a fan of ring photos. i texted a photo of my ring to a few friends after we got engaged (because they specifically asked to see it), but putting it on facebook just feels like showing off.

FH changed our relationship status to engaged on FB (after we contacted immediate family), and I posted a 100 days thing on his wall when we hit that milestone. We are only having 40 guests, so there is no reason to share our wedding information with our friends lists that are MOSTLY comprised of people who aren't invited. I do have some excited friends who will tag me in wedding-related posts from time to time. I still try to keep my responses on those posts vague.

I posted we got engaged. I did a ring shot but I was being a dick. There is someone that posted a ring shot every week and it was an inside joke for my MOH. I will post engagement photos and maybe a one year to the date post on IG. All my wedding related posts get posted here

I had a co-worker who posted so much. I don't think it broke many rules but it was like too muc info.

Her pictures of table signs basically showed her menu.

She shared a link to engagement pics, wedding sneak peeks, her video sneak peek.

She posted her cake tasting and said which flavour they ended up choosing

Countless other posts.

We posted that we were engaged (no closeup ring pic, but one where I'm holding my hand up), then at 1 year to the wedding, and 2 engagement photos. I've posted nothing since. I cringe when I see the "get your RSVPs in!" posts. FH posted about our venue search and I asked him to take it down.

It's one thing to post reminding about RSVPs (rude!). But I think just in general talking about your wedding isn't rude.

My job requires that I don't post on social media, but I like to stay on there to keep up with friends and family, and I like seeing the planning and the excitement. It really doesn't bother me at all whether I'm invited or not. It's the same to me as when people say "Don't post your new job accomplishment/pregnancy/GPA on social media" because someone might be looking for a job/unable to get pregnant/not have a good GPA. I'm not going to live my life tiptoeing around other people, and they shouldn't do that for me, either.

But to each their own.

I posted when we got engaged and then I posted a picture on Instagram of fiance and me holding paperwork when we booked the venue. My Instagram is private and has much less "followers" than my Facebook. I don't want the date or other details on there because we can't invite many friends.

@FutureMrsR, I see what you mean, but I also side eye my college friends that post their honor roll letter or GPA every semester, and it isn't because it's better than mine lol. I view posting GPA like posting about your salary.

Post that you're so excited to finish the semester or your degree just like it's fine to post about your new job or promotion, but adding the actual numbers is just awkward bragging IMHO

I've seen this article a couple times and I always want to share it as a passive aggressive move since I found out my brother was engaged through Facebook. And yes, we're a close knit family, so that stung.

FH and I are not friends on Facebook, and short of posting a shot of my ring when he proposed last October, I've said nothing about the wedding or the planning process. I feel like to post anything further is to open the gates for the "SO excited to come to your wedding!" posts from people who aren't invited.

Along with not posting wedding stuff, we don't post about our relationship. No pictures of PDA or the sweet thing he did for me yesterday, because that's ours and ours alone. I will, however, share some of the smartass things FH says that I end up laughing at despite how eye-rollingly bad they are, because our friends know his brand of humor.

I've never thought about posting actual numbers around my school experiences, just that I passed or that I'm glad its over, but I don't have a stance on it one way or the other.

My sister-in-law was a serial poster -- not just before the wedding, but after. Every day was a different wedding picture or something like "now we've been married 8 days!" It got old. This week will be their first anniversary, so I'm awaiting the flurry of posts surrounding that.

We haven't even changed from 'in a relationship' to engaged and its been a year. I posted a picture of my ring after being engaged about 6 months. I also have less than 100 facebook friends.

Just curious, when y'all say that you're not Facebook friends with your husbands, is that because they don't have Facebook? Or that you are both on Facebook but not friends?

Wow so true! I have several friends that just counted the days down on fb when asked where was other people's invite they would say it's in the mail keep looking. One person called them out on it became a blow in fb lol

I was wondering the same thing as Poptart - DH has FB and we're friends on there but he rarely uses it. Still nice to have him on my friends list.

I used to have a friend who would post every single detail of her life on FB - she was engaged about 5 times, and finally eventually married one. Posted about all their fights, then divorced him and posted a rant about how he was demanding to see her child, who we legally adopted despite not being the father - after that I unfriended her and several other people because I couldn't take the petty idiocy.

I posted that we were engaged and a couple of pics. Before I joined this group, I posted a question about wedding planners. No specifics about the wedding, updates on progress, or anything else. I will probably post a couple of pics from the wedding and maybe something from the honeymoon, but not a lot of details.

Lol it took us about 7 months to change our fb status. We're kinda mushy on fb, mainly in regards to silly memes I find, I'll tag him. But most I save and text him. He's probably way mushier on fb than I am. Lol

We haven't announced anything about the wedding on fb. Probably won't.

I've seen some posts about pregnancy/jobs/ weddings that just get so over the top. My friend is pregnant. She posts one pic s week, like timeline of her pregnancy. It's pretty cool to see, but she's not over the top with it. A few friends I've had have been excessive with their fb posts.