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Savvy October 2019

8 mos pregnant at wedding!!!

Brittany, on March 9, 2018 at 8:11 AM Posted in Planning 0 10
Hey all!
We’re scheduled to be married 10/5/18. Sooo we just discovered that I’m pregnant! So excited but at the same time.... I’ll be about 34 weeks for our wedding! 😳😂 Everything is already booked (deposits), and save the dates had been sent out. I’m looking for advice. Should we just continue with the wedding at the original date and me be 8 months pregnant, should we elope, or just do a smaller ceremony with friends and family? So many options haha!

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Latest activity by Brittany, on March 9, 2020 at 7:20 AM
  • Jables
    Dedicated May 2019
    Jables ·
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    Congratulations!! Maybe you can speak with your vendors about using them on an alternative date? If you wanted, you could do a small courthouse ceremony with immediate family soon and then have the full celebration after your baby is sleeping through nights better? Just update the guests once you decide. Don't worry about the save the dates already going out.

    If you keep your same date, I would worry about if you deliver early or how you're feeling in the 8th month with fluid retention and possible back soreness.

    Best of luck and just remember, no matter what you decide, you're marrying your best friend and have an amazing gift on the way!
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    Savvy October 2019
    Brittany ·
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    Thanks so much! We’re so excited but freaking out at the same time haha! We thought about doing something small, but our families themselves are so big anyways! I might talk to vendors and see if we can move it up! Thanks for the advice!
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  • Forestwed
    Master May 2018
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    I would either move it up or postpone. You don’t know how you’ll be feeling at 8 months. Good luck!
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  • Allison
    Expert October 2018
    Allison ·
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    I'd call your vendors and see if they can move it back to like January or February, so you have time to recover. You could have a small wedding earlier, almost an elopement, and this be your big reception /vow renewal?

    My only worry would be if you went early, you could end up having to cancel everything last minute. Or something else like bedrest, you could be exhausted and uncomfortable, etc.

    Congratulations!
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  • WinterMarie
    Super November 2018
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    Girl Im in the same boat but I'm due just a few weeks prior to the wedding. I am due Oct 20th and wedding is Nov. 17th. I am keeping the wedding as is but I contacted my venue and photographer asking if there was anyway to lower cost because we found out we were pregnant. My venue ended up lowering our minimum by $4,000 which is great and very helpful! Our photographer also lowered our package from the highest to the one right below it saving us $700.00 there. Any amount of money helps! I am also lowering the florist bill since we have enough time to limit some cost by doing less flowers and more candles.

    I would suggest trying to find some areas like this to limit/save some money just to give you some extra cushion. I decided to keep the wedding because I knew if I didn't I would not be happy/satisfied with a small wedding. We are making it lower scale but still traditional. We have not set prices with florist or DJ yet (they are the last) so we will make sure to get best prices there too.


    Just decide what you will be truly happy with and DON'T limit yourself-just cut cost to help. You will not be happy later if you don't do what you want, just scale it to the circumstances.

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    Savvy October 2019
    Brittany ·
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    Thank you!! And congrats! That’s so exciting! I really want to keep our date, but I’ll be sacrificing my dress, as well as taking the risk of not knowing how I’m feeling at that point. Plus I’m not gunna lie, I’m terrified that people are going to talk about us bc I’m a pregnant bride. I know that’s silly but it’s there Smiley sad

    I think I’ll feel better once we’ve told our parents and talked to them.
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  • P
    Master April 2018
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    Wow Congrats!


    If it were me, there is no way I would want to be 8 months pregnant at my wedding. Having been 8 months pregnant before, that was not a fun time for me. I was huge, my feet were swollen into large tree trunk like masses, my face was puffy, I got winded really quickly and I was an emotional wreck. I also happened to be on bed rest at that time because I went into labor at 33 weeks (which was able to be stopped, thank goodness). So I literally could not have had a wedding at that time.


    My hair looked great though.


    So IF this were me I would call back all of my vendors, explain the situation, and see if you can push your wedding out to at else 6 months after giving birth if you still want the whole white wedding. It might feel like an afterthought once the baby is here because new motherhood is so very all consuming so you may not feel that "into" it. My second choice would be to see if you could push the wedding up a few months. A 5 month pregnant belly is MUCH more manageable than an 8 month one.


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    Savvy October 2019
    Brittany ·
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    Thank you to everyone for your feedback!!! We are officially pregnant and I’ll be about 34 weeks for our wedding. We’ve actually decided to simply continue with our original wedding plans and 10/5! I lead a very active lifestyle, so I think that will definitely help with my pregnancy and how I feel. I was even able to order my beautiful dress in a larger size and I’m just going to rock the bump!!! It’ll for sure be a mind over matter thing and all that matters is that we’re getting married and having a beautiful baby and everything is going to be beautiful no matter what!
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    Just Said Yes October 2020
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    I'm curious how it worked out? 2 years later and I may be on the exact timeline you were
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    Savvy October 2019
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    We ended up postponing our wedding for the same date one year later! We were lucky and all of our deposits and contracts were upheld and simply changed for the following year. Everyone was willing to accommodate based on the circumstances ☺️ I’m honestly glad we waited bc our daughter got to be one of the flower girls and her and I got some beautiful pictures together (as shown). Plus, I was able to focus on my pregnancy and not worry about the stress of a wedding ❤️❤️8 mos pregnant at wedding!!! 1

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