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Just Said Yes August 2018

9 month old flower girl -pleaseeee help!

Brooke , on April 29, 2018 at 8:21 PM Posted in Wedding Ceremony 0 20
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Hi guys ! In major need of your help as my fiance and I are not seeing eye to eye on this topic. My fiance has a 6 year old niece that I love, my sister just had her first born baby whom I love and want them both incorporated in the wedding . By the time our wedding comes around my sister's baby will be 9 months. I want my fiance niece Bella to pull my sister's baby gemma down the aisle in a wagon. He thinks the wagon is stupid and it takes away the flower girl duties from Bella and makes her a "wagon girl" so he says. He also doesnt want to put the stress on Bella to pull a wagon down grass as she is more of an introvert and already a little nervous about the whole thing. Our officiant said maybe it would be a good idea for my brother in law to hold gemma and walk with the girls. My sister thinks my brother in law would not be to keen on the idea. Pleaseeeee help me !!!

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Latest activity by Susan, on April 30, 2018 at 3:47 PM
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    Dedicated May 2018
    Jennifer ·
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    You could have Bella go down first throwing flowers then the first bridesmaid to walk down the aisle could pull your other niece in the wagon.
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  • J
    Expert June 2018
    Jamie ·
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    I am also having my 9 month old niece be a flower girl. Unfortunately my other flower girls will be slightly under 3 years old so no wagon for them to pull. I'm having all three girls be escorted down the aisle by a family member. I've seen even the bravest kid get nervous being a flower girl. I would really try to say this to the brother in law.
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    Super June 2018
    Erica ·
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    Do you have to use a wagon, I have seen strollers in wedding colors with ribbons and signs on them, but you said something about grass, so probably won't work
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  • SoKatiiee
    Devoted June 2018
    SoKatiiee ·
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    I would be a little cautious about a 6 year old pulling a wagon with a 9 month in it just because I've seen some horror stories... I like the idea of a bridesmaid/ family member walking down- or if you have ring bearers, maybe they could help?

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    Super October 2018
    MaltedMilk ·
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    Personally, I would have 9 month old baby on Mom's lap/Gramma's lap/trusted friend during the wedding. I am a pretty chill mom but no way no how would I put my baby in a wagon being pulled by a 6 year old.

    Why the need to have a 9 month old as a flower girl? That is waaaaay too young.

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    Just Said Yes August 2018
    Brooke ·
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    It was actually my sister the 9 month old mother idea and she is hooked on the idea and not sure how to change it upgrade it compromise on it without hurting anyone's feelings
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    Just Said Yes August 2018
    Brooke ·
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    I like this idea since the first bridesmaid is her mom. Any idea on what we would do with the baby once they finish down the aisle and my sister stands in front ?
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    Super October 2018
    MaltedMilk ·
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    Okay - do you really want the baby as a flower girl? If not: "Look, we all know Kelsey is as cute as a button and we all want to show her off. I have concerns over her being comfortable during the wedding and frankly, she might fuss or babble and interrupt the ceremony. We both feel she will be better off as a guest."

    A friend went through this a while back: Gramma and Mom were hell bent on having a baby pulled in a wagon.....Bride got talked into it and was pissed.

    Please - speak your mind.

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    November 2018
    happeningmom ·
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    We will have a 6 month old baby being pulled down the aisle by a 6 year old in our wedding. I would recommend ensuring that the wagon is padded so any mishaps will be avoided. I see nothing wrong with your ideas.
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  • Allison
    Expert October 2018
    Allison ·
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    I don't think the wagon is a good idea that young.

    My ring water will be a little over 2 and we're nervous about him. My brother (his favourite person ever, his uncle) Will probably end up going and walking him down the aisle.

    You could have your processional backwards and put your MOH last and have the baby with her mom. At 9 months she might be able to walk between her and the best man (if they're walking together) But that depends on her individual development..
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    Mim ·
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    Everything she said. Just let a loving adult hold the baby and make a point to take some pictures together. Buy her a pretty dress if you desire.

    You should have wedding party members to honor your relationship with them. You may love the baby but let's be real here, you won't have much of a relationship yet. The baby won't remember anything at all about your wedding, the six year old will. Honor the relationship between your fh and his niece
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    Dedicated May 2018
    Jennifer ·
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    You can have your sister give the baby to the father or maybe a grandparent or just someone who is pretty close with the baby.
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    January 2019
    MOB So Cal ·
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    Yeah, in reality, a 9-month old is an "honorary flower girl" -- super cute dress and some well-planned pictures. Putting her in a wagon and asking a six year old to pull her down the aisle presents SO many ways for things to go wrong. What if the baby freaks out about being put in a wagon or when seeing all the people? Who's going to stop everything to calm her down? Babies are unpredictable, no matter how good they are. Let the six-year old be the flower girl. If baby's dad doesn't want to walk her down the aisle, then mom/MOH can, and then hand her off to her husband and/or someone in his extended family, like his mom, if she's coming to the wedding, who will be sitting as a guest. If sister is deadset on a Pintresty wagon prop, she can supply it and photographer can get a couple of pictures, either before or after the ceremony. Good luck! Smiley heart

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    JuneBride ·
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    I wouldn't have a 9 month old as a flower girl. That is way too young. Your sister should understand that.
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    Just Said Yes March 2019
    MarchBride ·
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    I saw that at a wedding and i think it is an awesome idea and the babygirl was 10months old!! The wagon was all white and had a few flowers attached.. Great idea
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  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
    Caytlyn ·
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    Will you have a ring bearer? Is he older than the 6 year old flower girl? Would he be more suitable/comfortable pulling the baby or maybe both him and the older flower girl could pull her together?
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  • dancingwiththekumars
    Expert May 2018
    dancingwiththekumars ·
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    Pulling the wagon is too much for a 6 yr old kid. Especially on grass. Have the kid walk out alone, and someone else carry the baby. Bridesmaid or Groomsman or close family member...
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    Yeah...this isn’t good idea. I would never have let a 6 year old pull my son in a wagon at 9 months, no matter how much padding was in it. And he lost every ounce of his Sugar Honey Iced Tea when the stroller went over any kind of bumpy surface. I don’t see this ending well. Just let the infant sit in someone’s lap. I promise the kid won’t care.
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    MaltedMilk ·
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    A six year boy, pulling a wagon with a baby in it, on grass is a recipe for disaster. I have boys, so I can say this, but they can be a bit rough and tumble. That baby is going to fall out!!! Like a pp said, the baby won't care. And if Mom of Baby and Gramma of Baby care, they won't allow this to happen either.

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  • Susan
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    Susan ·
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    Yeah, honestly, shes way too young. This wagon thing can be super dangerous because unless it has a restraint and high sides, she could easily fall out. Plus it puts a lot of pressure on the 6 yo. By all means, have the baby in a cute dress and get some pictures with her, but I wouldnt make her a flower girl.
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