Hello! My FH and I got engaged last May, and we have been diligently planning out our wedding. I have 5 bridesmaids and 1 MOH. When I asked all my ladies to be part of the wedding I made it clear as day that they can think about it because it was a big task with lots of responsibilities. So if they said no, no feelings hurts, brushed it off and carry on. I also stressed that they will need to budget and save as well. Mind you, I had this chat in Sept/Oct of last year. It's now July.
1 of my ladies, has been one of my long time friends. Let's call her Sally. I had a chat with Sally about budgeting, back in August. I wanted her to be part of my wedding and assumed that if I set the groundworks early on, Sally would be mindful of it. Well, I guessed wrong. In February, she left work to finally have her knee repaired after prolonging it for sooooo long. Since then she's been recovering at home and hanging out. She's also been looking for other jobs because she doesn't want to go back to her retail job.
Last week, Sally was upset and explained that their landlord kicked her and her partner out. I consoled her that everything will be okay and she'll find a new place. Well they did and they quickly moved into a new spot. Now when I spoke to my MOH, she revealed to me a text that was sent by Sally. Sally stated she was going through a rough spot and living on disability since February. My bridal shower is coming up in 2 weeks and Sally isn't able to cover the cost of her portion. Nor does she know how she'll come up with that money.
Sally also sent me a text saying that she is "near broke because of the move in cost. But trusting that God with everything." I then called her and she just said that her and my MOH are "handling" the deposit situation. However, she is still trying to look for a stable job. If that doesn't work out, she will go back to her old retail job on Monday.
I don't know what to do.
I addressed it to her that she can "bow out" and she can be useful in a different aspect of my wedding. Sally was clearly not happy about this, but I stressed that it wasn't about the wedding anymore and I wanted her to be financial stable for herself. Now, in retaliation, Sally stated that the only problem is that she can't cover the bridal shower but "foresees herself paying for everything else later on."
How can I trust her with that? She supposedly plans to go back to work on Monday, July 8th. My bridal shower is in 2 weeks July 21st, but she doesn't get paid until the 3rd week July 26th. I'm not sure if she's thinking ahead and considering the payment of her rent, utilities, transportation to her work (because she doesn't have her own vehicle), and bridesmaid dress. She's also wanting soo badly, and fantasizing, of an elaborate bachelorette party for me. When I've said no to it. (smh smh) WITH WHAT MONEYYY?? BITCOINS?
I'm already covering the cost of our wedding from our own pockets, and other parts of our wedding parties' things.
Thoughts?? Any prayers?? Help!!
