I've read a lot of posts recently regarding this and it always ends with the fact that it hurts the relationship and ends the friendship.
As of earlier today, one of my friends from HS told me she wants to step down because she feels obligated to empty her wallet. I told her that is not my intentions at all and I'm sure there is a bit of stress with planning the shower (I am not privy to those details) My MOH was aware she just recently got a job and at the beginning was not able to offer enough money equally. So she agreed she would offer time instead. Based on texts I saw every time a meeting was scheduled to discuss details, she would not be free. So when she was asked when she would be free her response was, "I don't know yet. I have a lot of things coming up so I can't say right now." I understand if she is busy with her new job and with life. Everyone has different schedules but it sounds like she doesn't care. Do I try to amend things or let her step down?