Hey guys!
Thanks for taking the time to read my post. So, I wanna start out by saying that my FH and I have been together for 6 years and we’re also business partners who work in hospitality. I had a dog before we started dating, and he adopted a cat while we were together (the cat ended up living with me until we moved in together about a year later because his roommates at the time were absolute reprobates (and he didn’t do so much as to get a litter box for her!). We also adopted a rescue cat together about 4 years ago and a bearded dragon in 2017.
Moving on; he’s always wanted a puppy. Always. He’s had family dogs, but never one of his own. I know that he “loves” our pets... However, he’s never accepted responsibility for any of our animals other than “his” cat, and I assumed it’s because they didn’t have the same bond because he didn’t “raise” them. And even then- I still care for the cat.
Well. I think I was wrong about the “bond” thing because guess who spotted a woman giving away puppies, and guess who HAD to have one (literally started crying when he held Atticus for the first time). My FH did! He’s a great puppy, too! Young to be away from Momma at only 5 weeks but very smart. Already house trained, sits to wait for food, etc.
Now two-days into having a puppy of his own and hates it. Walking the dog, watching his body language so we can take him out BEFORE he has an accident (it’s just on the indoor puppy pad but I don’t really want to make that a habit), making sure they’re all introduced properly and that we begin crate training, etc. ALL goes to me. And it’s ALWAYS been like this.
This is really, really scary to me. I love animals. I’m getting a degree in biology. Sometimes the thought of having children scares me because I love my pets so much that I don’t think my heart could handle more. We’re going to make it work regardless. Atticus fits in so perfectly with our family and he’s a great companion to our playful 6-year-old and very, very respectful with the kitties and Bearded dragon.
But, have any of you had issues with this? It really scares me. A commitment to care for an animal is just as difficult and wonderful and tiresome as a commitment to anything else, isn’t it? What about when we want a family one day (which he definitely does)? Am I just going to be a scullery maid my whole life? Going to work to wait hand and foot on people who treat me like cattle and then to come home and do the same?
We’ve talked about it and resolved the issue at hand... But what are your experiences with negligence? I had never dated someone before who wasn’t smitten with animals. Wouldn’t you think that the lack of responsibility would translate over to children as well?
Again, thank you so much for reading my super long and maybe not wedding-related post. And, thank you for your responses!
Aubrianna Abbema