A guy's take on bachelor parties

I don't know why they are fuzzy.

As long as there is no infidelity, in the end.....he's marrying her. Not the bros or the dancers. Go or not go, it shouldn't be guilt tripped.

From a woman's perspective that's lame. You can go to a bachelor or bachelorette party and not touch other men or women. It's just tradition and having fun with your friends ALONE for probably one of the last times. I don't even remember when I was with all my last close friends in one spot without their dudes having fun. It should be the other way around too.

In our group, bachelor/bachelorette parties are more about celebrating The upcoming wedding than acting like it's someone's last chance.

It's very sweet but I think you miss out on a fun tradition by skipping the party. I didn't want a bachelorette or a stripper but I ended up with both and it was tons of fun. I also go out without FH all the time and will continue to do so after marriage. FH isn't as social as me and I need my friend time.

If that's a guy's concern, I'm sure there can be a bachelor party without strippers

I totally want my guy to ENJOY his bachelor party

Bachelor partys don't have to include strippers and drinking. FH's friends are taking him to a pre-season football game.

UO, I love it! That is so incredibly sweet. But yeah, this may be thee only man on the planet that would write or do something like that. Very sweet though. I hope the wife gave him more than a little somethin' somethin' that night! Haha!

I 100% support FI doing whatever he wants with his bachelor party - only limitations are no sex and no STDs. I don't care if he has strippers, hell I'd hire him strippers if that's what he wanted. It's not a big deal to me, and if he needs to get it out of his system, then do so so that there's no mystery

While sweet, I still want FH to have his bachelor party and enjoy it. He's earned it in my opinion! He takes care of me, he is supportive, works so hard, etc. Of course there are boundaries, like PP said, no sex. If he goes to the strip club, fine. As long as he isn't hooking up or doing anything to jeopardize our relationship, I'm okay with it. I trust him and want him to have fun with his friends!

I remember reading this over a year ago. I appreciate his sentiment but thought it was rude AF to just not show up. Why couldn't he just tell his friends he didn't want a strip party bachelor party? My FH hates strip clubs (he only went once before we met and said it wasn't for him) so he told his friends he wanted to do some kind of outdoors trip. I'd be pissed if I planned a party for someone and they just didn't show up when they could have just told me they didn't want a strip club party.

Edit: I personally don't like strip clubs so I'm glad he doesn't like them either. It has nothing to do with being jealous, I just don't like them. Like even when I was single, my best friend would try to make me go with her, not for me and I'm relieved my FH doesn't like them either.

@Anna I wholeheartedly agree with ypu on that.

I'm middle ground on this subject

FH better go and enjoy his bachelor party! Lol

Anna my fh doesn't care for them either.

Also middle ground, I do want him to go enjoy his bro time, but I know that some of his friends had some not kosher Bach parties if you will, and I just have a weird feeling about the whole issue. Bro code not broken but I'm able to read between the lines pretty well I guess. I hope they actually take into consideration what he wants to do and don't just plan whatever they want to do, which is how it usually happens.

@Nikki, I completely agree that it is inappropriate for hosts to force their guests of honor to do anything they don't want. Unfortunately you see it all too often - with e-parties, showers, and of course bachlorettes. Some people are very set on one way to do things, and can't imagine any other way to celebrate, even if it's not what the honoree wants.

ETA: FI doesn't want strippers either, and in fact, proposed a co-ed bachlor(ette)? for us both. I told him no because I want to be at the spa with my girls lol. However, if he wanted them, he'd get them

Interesting take, but in this case, wouldn't his friends have known he wasn't into that kind of thing? Big disappointment in his friends there. But he should have said something and gone out for at least drinks. Makes him an asshole, too.

I guess make sure you have boundaries set and tell your friends what you would like to do?

This has circulated on this forum before and I maintain my stance that he's rude AF for not attending and that he seems like a really crappy friend. My DH didn't want a strip club so he didn't get that. Even if he didn't tell his groomsmen that, they know that about him (since they are best friends afterall) and wouldn't have planned a party he wouldn't enjoy. Aside from not attending and being rude, I'm also not totally buying his intentionions for the post. It particularly rubbed me the wrong way that he called out his friend's bachelor parties. Like what even was the point of that other than a misguided attempt to make himself look good? I'm not sure where he lives or where he got that 80% from but I'm friends with a lot of guys who have been married over the last 5 years and all of 2 of them had strippers at the bachelor party.

I'm sure his friends missed him. He sounds like he's great to have around at parties...