A guy's take on bachelor parties

If a guy is going to cheat, he doesn't need a bach party to do it.

Although I respect this man whole-heartedly for standing up and being a man for the woman he loves, I don't believe this is what happens at 80% of bachelor parties. A man can very easily tell his friends that he doesn't want to go to any strip clubs or have any strippers or last "hoorahs". If your friends don't respect your wishes, are they really your friends?

ETA: @the Grooms couldn't have said it better.

It took a fantastic amount of begging and pleading on my part for my friend to forgo penis decorations for my party... still not 100% sure she won't do it. I wish people would just do what the honoree wants

This is sweet but he definitely should have spoken to his friends about this beforehand. My FH is not into strip clubs and he made it pretty clear to his best man that he didn't want strippers at his bachelor party. I would have been pretty pissed if I were the best man in that situation.

This is stupid. my fh is renting a cabin and going fishing with his friends. most of the bachelor parties he has attended have been something similar. just have the bachelor party you want to have. it's about celebrating the fact you are getting married with your buddies, not a "last night out."

I thought it was inconsiderate for him to stand up his friends - unless he told them in advance that he didn't want to go.

I don't care if my FH has a bachelor's party. I don't want him to go to a strip club. He asked and I told him I wouldn't want it. I can't/don't want to imagine another woman touching him like that. I've asked my BP to NOT include a strip club in my festivities either.

In general, I think the whole "last time to go out with the boys" notion is lame. I'm sure after we get married, there will still be plenty of times FH goes out for drinks with his boys. But none of those instances, either before or after the wedding, will likely involve strippers. Some couples may be totally down for it, but for us, personally, it is just not something he/I are interested in.

As far as calling out his friends, I agree, it was rude! He def should have just talked to them personally instead of blasting it on social media.

If it’s just about one last “hoorah” and hanging out with friends, Do something else. Go golfing, fishing, camping...Strippers and strip clubs are for one thing. Sexual pleasure. By going to one, you are starting the marriage off negatively.