Hi!
I am looking for advice on how to handle my father situation with my wedding day. My father is pretty much an ass-hole and has been my entire life. We have a pretty rough relationship and have since I was a kid. I don’t even really want him at the wedding however the pressure from the conservative side of the family is tough. To give you an idea, when I graduated college (during Covid) and had limited seats, I did not extend an invitation to attend in person. His parents sent a hurtful and aggressive text message regarding the whole situation, expressing their disappointment in my “childish” decision. His side of the family is so blind to his crappy, absent parenting throughout my childhood and will defend him at all costs. I feel very confident saying that if he does not come neither will that side of the family. I still want his side of the family to come. (Side note I do not wish to have a relationship with him at this time.) Of course my parents are divorced and mom has been the the sole parent my entire life. I have always said I am walking myself down the aisle. My fiancé can’t stand the guy and neither can my future mil and fil. My mom thinks I need to invite him out of courtesy and to reduce the drama that could/will come. I guess I need advice from anyone who has gone through something similar!
Questions I have-1. Should I even invite him?2. Where the heck do I sit him when my mother and future mil and fil get along well and want to sit together?3. He’s a narcissist and super controlling-how do I avoid him giving a speech or drawing attention if he does come?4. If I have my fil match the groomsmen, will it look bad if he is not also matching? Thanks in advance!
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