A Wedding With an $800 Budget!

@Jennifer -

A) I'm putting myself through college. I don't have parents to pay for it for me - My parents didn't pay for my college either, I made good choices and worked hard and got my school to pay me to attend.

B) I recently lost my job when the economy tanked and the job started downsizing - I lost my job for the exact same reason, of course I had enough in my savings account to survive for two years on my own, but worked hard, applied for 10 jobs every single day (which took 5-6 hours a day because i customized my resume and cover letter to each position and company) and then found a job that pays me very well without depleting my savings too much.

SO obviously I made better choices than you did.

Really ladies since when is coming on here to talk about how to save money ever been a bad thing I think its a great post to help those on a very tight budget... I've seen a few brides that have had to post pone because they couldn't afford the wedding they wanted... She opted to have the wedding she could afford at the time she wanted to have it.. I see nothing wrong with it.. and I think she looks cute in her dress.. it may look like something you'd wear to bed but obviously it was something she was proud to have made and she wore it beautifully...

Aw man it takes me a year to upload a pic and now I've missed 5 pages! Oh well. So now that we spent no money on the "day" all of our wedding gift money went to our vacation fund. And a little on moving.

Oh, btw Jennifer, i wasn't stereotyping you, I was proving how I make good decisions.

That's. Not a guy that's a bridesmaid. I wasn't about to make a butch lesbian wear a dress. I've seen to many unhappy lesbians in gowns.

I just wanted to say congrats! As long as you and your hubby are happy thats all that matter. I loved your hair by the way!

@mrs g. - It sounds like you had the wedding you wanted to and could afford. Good for you! Wish I could have gotten some staff FREE from relatives and friends, but I guess they'll just have to relax and enjoy the fun time being a guest that FH and I saved for and paid for. I am trying not to be insulted by the fact that you think my FH thinks any less of our life together b/c we are having a nice, informal wedding that we spent a bit more money on. I think you were doin' ok up until there.

PS - Wow this thread went downhill fast.

@Victoria, I have no problem with people saving money, my problem is with someone who spent $800 saying that those of us that spend more are going to have spouses that cheat on them and attempt to make everyone feel bad because they are spending money on the wedding they can afford.

Wow.

Just want to mention that sometimes life doesnt give us a choice...I found Glenn's post to be pretty obnoxious and rude.

Some people do make crappy choices, but just beause you can't afford a huge wedding doesn't mean its because you made crappy choices. So don't lump us all together in the same boat please. Also some of us can't justify spending over 10k because we have other goals we are saving for.

Choice-drugs,dropping out of school, having children before you can afford it etc is a choice

Not choice- Death of a love one,natural disaster,illnesses. These can greatly impact a persons life negatively and there is no choice about it accept trying to move on and getting things back together.

Also I am really not buying this girls post anyways. Your wedding was in May, so why randomly come on a brag about it now? Kinda odd.

CONGRATS MRS. G!!!! You all were a HAPPY bride and groom and that's all that matters!!!!!!!

Funny how I got flagged when I speak the truth. SMH.

Magination-- Yes! Good post!!

*whoops* okay, really leaving this thread now!!

How is studying hard in middle and high school providing me with better opportunities? How is doing any extra curricular I could to get noticed by colleges better opportunities?

And I don't care if you call me a jerk, I made right choices that put me in a very good place to be extremely successful in my chosen field, and being successful is what makes me happy.

Thanks for the compliments! The dress was a real dilemma because I had to swing dance in it and that's why I opted to make it - inspired by a different swing dance dress I had. We do a lot of aerials and lifts. I'm wearing white lacy bloomers underneath as to not expose "the business" hehe. Btw, this post wasn't meant to back big expensive weddings. Honey, if I had a million, I would have spent more, but we're both the late-twenties-loads-of-college-debt-types-of folks. This post was mainly to give broke couples encouragement. As John said, "All you need is Love!"

Magination, I applaud you for thinking that spending more than $10k on a wedding is a bad choice, for a lot of people it is. Also, many, many people have suffered deaths to close ones, natural disasters and illnesses and used them as motivations to make themselves better. You are right that things can happen to you, but you can take one of two response, you can treat them like things that happened to you and take the victim mentality or you can make a good choice and use them as motivation to make yourself better.

Gawd Glenn, you're such an asshat. Damn you for all your hard work! It makes me look lazy. Stoppit.

I find it completely repulsive how people talk to each other on this website. Who care how much money one makes, or how much one is spending on their special day. This website is a place where brides and grooms should be able to come together and share ideas and help one another if need be. Everyone on here is their own person, with thier own ideas and personalities. No one ever said you have to like ones personal choices but be respectful and considerate of ones feelings. I know everyone has strong opinions on this website that has definitely been proven in other post, but there is no need to be rude. Not everyone has to have a huge fancy wedding, you have the type of wedding that fits you, regardless if it cost 500 or 50,000 money should not be an object. Congratulations to you Mrs. G I am sure you are just happy you were able to stay within your budget and still be able to create the wedding of your dreams.

Hey, my best friends call me the asshole of the group, and I'm cool with that. I am never going to sugar coat anything to anyone and you will know how I feel. Sorry if that's too hard for you.

As far as a clue, I have a clue, you like to blame others for your misfortune rather than use misfortune (happens to all of us) as a way to make yourself better and make better decisions later in life.

Bash****** not back!

I've blamed no one...again with the assumptions! Sheesh, you DO need a clue. Do you assume that EVERYONE who doesn't have a decent job and own their own home somehow blames "the man" and does drugs and sits around and smokes and makes bad decisions??

*A-hem* THAT'S STEREOTYPING!