A Wedding With an $800 Budget!

Mrs G, it looks like you had an amazing wedding and good for you for having it so inexpensively. Its nice to see that it can be done! Congrats!

@Glenn if you read back she only made comments after ppl bashed her on how cheap her wedding looked.. She never stated I had a $8000 wedding on an $800 budget she was just letting everyone know that an $800 wedding worked for her. If ppl had not talked "ish" about what her wedding looked like I'm sure the comment would not have been made it was rude yes and considering I paid more for my wedding I didn't like it much either but I understood why she became defensive. I understand that you have worked your ass off and been able to have a wonderful life dispite your hardships but honestly you don't know what anyone has been thru so your bashing women who can't afford more is really low... Everyone has their own hardships , maybe its the economy in their area, whatever the reason maybe its not for you to judge them or make it sound like your decision making skill are superior to thiers.. you obviously were in a positon to make those decisions to make your life better NOT everyone is.

Wow thanks Kaylee! Well spoken. I did not mean to create an argument. Just a place to discuss bargain shopping. Hehe

No, but I do believe they made bad choices. Sorry if you didn't actually blame anyone, but you did start laying out excuses (which to me is just the same).

@Jennifer, I do with the decent job part and at least having a house to live in. From all the people I know who don't have a decent job and lives off of someone sits around and makes excuses why they are the way they are. I have a decent job with little college background AND with a child during high school. So what is other people's excuse?

@ Shannon LMAO!! Now if only we could bottle the addictive quality of WW and sell it on the streets....

oooh this thread has gotten deliciously evil...

I could be wrong and I'm not going back through 7 pages to find it, and if I'm wrong I apologize. But I thought a comment was made by her around the fact that those that spent more are going to have husbands that cheat on them (implying that I'm going to be cheating on my FW). If I read that wrong my bad, if not I stand by my statement. Regardless i stand by my statement of making good choices and being able to live how I want because of those choices. I firmly believe that 95% of all people are in the situation they are in because of the choices they made in their life.

Putting myself through college isn't an "excuse" it's just the way that it is. It's why we can't spend $10 on a wedding. I could stop going to school and spend all that money on the wedding, I suppose...but isn't that a worse decision??

Usually when someone says they are putting themselves through college, a "normal" person would say "way to go" or "good job" or "man that's hard to do" rather than rubbing it in that due to their "poor decisions" they didn't get a scholarship like you. Which is why I find you to be self-righteous.

I haven't been on these boards long, but I find that 99% of the people on here are supportive, helpful, thoughtful, etc. Comments like yours do not jive with that atmosphere. If you want to portray how lucky you are, then do so in a non-downgrading-to-others manner.

Thank you,

Jen

Mrs G, congrats on getting married this year! I thought the pics were cute and you're right. I don't think there is anything wrong with having a cheaper, average cost, or expensive wedding. At the end of the day, if you're married to the one that you plan to live your life with and for...it was a success!!! I do not think anyone knows you well enough, or is qualified to tell you that you made mistakes other than Hayley who brought up the validity point. (I would get that checked into..that could be a mess!) You were nice enough to give us pointers on how to save costs, and that was very nice of you to take the time to do so.

You were saying you were putting yourself through college as a holier than thou way of saying you were better than me and that someone must have helped me. I do say congrats on putting yourself through and also good for you to spend what you can on a wedding. I applaud everyone who sets a reasonable budget based on their income and their ability to pay.

Read back because it wasn't til the end of page 3 after several ppl gave "their honest opinions" about the way her wedding looked that she made a rude comment about bridezillas... yes she made a few rude comments in return that I would have taken major offense to if they had been in the original post but having seen what others were saying about her wedding day and the way she looked and how "cheap" they "honestly" believed it looked I could understand her being defensive. Does spending thousands of $$ mean you are any more married than someone who opts to throw together something to make their dream of marriage come true.. No no more than it means you will have a horrible meaningless marriage.. thats all I'm saying

My whole point is that the original post made it seem like those who were spending more on their weddings were materialistic, bridezillas, etc. I'm glad she was happy with her wedding. I would not be. I would want to feed my guests. I wouldn't want the stres of sewing my own dress when I had never sewn before.

I love FH- but we were not in a rush to have the wedding. We took time to plan- both for us, and for our guests. I do think that not sending real invitations is against ettiquette- yet she chose not to.

I think she was in so much of a hurry to actually get married that she forgot to sit down and plan an event as a hostess. She's happy. She's married (we hope... I'd still verify the legalities since most online ordinations are not valid). However, I don't appreciate being called materialistic because I spent more- especially when I have the means and it's not affecting my other financial goals.

@ Glenn

Boy you don't read. I said "I do not have a lot of money because:" and listed two reasons. I didn't mention anything about your choices or that I was better than you. I was merely stating my situation.

Insecure much?

Listen, if your wedding genuinely MADE YOU HAPPY. then thats fine. I udnerstand people have priorities... I love a good meal and a killer pair of heels, but drive a subaru station wagon with 240,000 miles on it cause hey, it gets me where i need to go and idc that it looks like hell. I get it...people have different 'status symbols; that mean alot to them. I dont think theres any determining factor of less expensive(cheap implies more than just the cost) wedding being less important than an expensive wedding. None of us know each others TRUE financial situation. As long as youre genuinely happy with your 'big day' thats all that matters. that being said, no one should also judge a person for having an expensive wedding..or suggest that they are making up for a relationship lacking in other areas.

I'm not insecure at all, I inferred what you were obviously implying.

I wasn't implying anything! Sheesh! Let me try again..I was merely stating a couple of the reasons that I can't afford a big expensive wedding. The fact that you found it to be insulting just proves my previous point! =D

Edit: Me losing my job was not a "oh I'm better than you" dig...duh

You go girl, now thats wht Im talking about. Little expense, overhead and so much fun, it sounds.

Christina-- arent YOU the one who said for her to look where we would all be with our cheating husbands?

Mallory that would be me! To be more precise you your relationship and life is together believe me you wouldn't have the time or desire to rip someone elses dreams apart. I am in no way considering a budget wedding. My FH and I have the means to make our dreams come true. I would never insult another women's wedding choices. An when I said half of your marriages would end in divorce that is a FACT not an opinion. Over half of marriages WILL end in divorce. If you are so mean and nasty to a women you hardly know, I feel sorry for the man that is marrying you.

Way to go girl! Thanks for sharing and telling what a wedding is really all about...two people getting married and celebrating with family and friends!!