I'm having some issues with my dad and I'm trying to see AITA?
My dad & I don't have a very good relationship - he hates my mother and used that as an excuse to stay out of my brother's and my life. We talk sometimes and I visit him with my kids but he really seems like an uncle more than a father to me. Anyway, he's a dj, a damn good one, and I asked him to dj the wedding. He agreed and was thrilled I asked. Maybe a month later, he brought up djing and walking me down the aisle. I decided in my 20s that my son or mother would be walking me down the aisle instead of my father because I wanted whoever gave me away to have "had" me to do so. We've NEVER been to a Daddy-Daughter dance, a date, we've never even lived together. Tbh I'm closer to my FH's dad than my own.
When he heard that he wasn't going to be walking me down the aisle, he was immediately hurt and made a comment that "people would think he was dead". My stepmother even said it was mean of me to ask him to dj but not walk me down the aisle because it seems like I was "using" him. I explained my reasoning to her but not my dad but agreed I would talk to him. We saw each other on Easter and he apologized for not getting the wedding songs template to me that he offered to send. We were good. Today, he texts me that he can't be the dj at his "only daughter's" wedding and will pay $250 (which won't cover any costs for any dj that I've seen) for someone else. Mind you, he hasn't offered to pay for ANYTHING for his only daughter's wedding before this and didn't pick up the phone when I called.
My dad has been extremely mean to me my entire life, even telling me that he didn't like me because I reminded him of my mother. I was initially upset and called my mom to cry. I texted my dad a long text message explaining how I feel and ending it saying I love him. He has yet to respond and I've reached out to a new dj to book. I love my father but I don't think I should compromise on this just because he feels he's entitled to it just because I'm his "only girl". AITA?