3 months out from the big day and I started planning a year ago so I am not one to wait on these things - I am a full time third year grad doctoral student, work part time, and have clinical work that fills my waking hours and have started to become very overwhelmed with planning. To top it off my maid of honor dropped because she realized she didn't want to make the effort to fly down for the big day anymore due to her new job after accepting the MOH position a year ago. I had asked nothing of her for assistance wise since she accepted the position as I knew she was busy with her job and adjustment there. She dropped this weekend with no apology so that was quite the shock for me. Guess I should have chosen my MOH more wisely.
Anyways, I really loved wedding planning up until this point. All of my family are too busy to assist unfortunately as we are all workaholics and they offer help but most they can do is design opinions which are still appreciated. My FH offers to help but is also in grad school and we are long distance so that adds to decision complications when it would be easier to just sit down together to do this. Why did I decide to get married in grad school you may ask? FH and I are both military so we wanted to ensure we were stationed together next year and after 4 years of dating knew we wanted to get married and love each other deeply so why wait if we can do it now. Had a school break that I had planned to make a lot of planning headway during but got super sick and was hospitalized with the flu so did minimal things during that time.
Now 3 months out I am juggling school, work (to pay for the wedding), and clinicals all while trying to keep my sanity. To make matters worse FH's grandmother is refusing to abide by our family color scheme request (literally any shade of blue) so that has added to my stress since it impacts what my grandmothers wear color wise because we were avoiding having one person sticking out in the family photos. Lastly, due to student budget we did not hire a wedding planner as ones in my area gave us estimates ranging from $1500-$2000 which is more than 10% of our entire wedding budget (small wedding). I thankfully have a family friend who loves wedding planning and coordination who offered to assist day of so at least I can rest easy about the day itself - now the hard part is getting there with all the To Dos left. Sorry for rambling but I am under a lot of stress and recently my FH and I have gotten into more arguments because I can't hold my temper over issues that arise and I love him and he has offered to help some but he struggles with time management sometimes, so it is hard for him always to keep up with the never ending to do list and most of what is left is finalizing design, wedding cake etc. that is more my forte. AH! I need a glass of wine! I am starting to see there is just not enough time in the day and am worrying that the wedding will not be done in time for the day we have set and am worried it just won't come together the way we had hoped since there is so much left to do and I have no clue how it will get done without me losing sleep (already getting 4-5 hours nightly). On the plus side I am making time for self care because I would probably be headed down a war path if I did not expel that inner turmoil through exercise ever so often.
I guess to summarize I am seeking any advice especially from those who planned their own wedding? Thank you!
