Add plus ones for coworkers?

I think this is relative to how much space you do have :o you already said you're tight on space. So I'm wondering if you allowed the married coworkers their spouses then how does that look for your space?

I would definitely allow spouses! Weddings are romantic events that people want to attend with their special person, regardless of whether or not they'd know other people.

A significant other is not a plus one. They should 100% have been invited in the first place.

Spouses aren’t plus ones, they should’ve been invited. I would tell them you’re sorry for the mixup and that their significant others are invited.

I would allow spouses for sure. I would always assume my husband is invited and if I found out he wasn't, I just wouldn't go.

I'd let spouses come, too. It might be uncomfortable, but it's super important to rectify your initial mistake of not inviting SOs in the first place

Agree with the above posters. Weddings are romantic and you want people to dance and feel comfortable. I wouldn’t dance with my coworkers, and honestly I don’t think I’d go to an event in which my fiancé wasn’t invited.
I’d pretend like they were invited all along and you made a mistake on the wording. And to the people you’ve already corrected tell them you’re sorry for the oversight and confusion and their spouse is invited.

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Technically you should have invited them to begin with because as previous posters have stated- a husband/spouse is not a "plus one".
That being said, it depends on your social circle. At my work, the first girl in our circle to get married in 2016 didn't invite anyone's husbands/spouses, etc. I thought it was weird.... but now no one else has invited them either. It has become a girls night out kind of event. Most of my co-workers spouses are actually really happy about this because they don't want to go to the weddings anyways (since they don't know the people getting married). Anyways, i know this is totally not the norm, nor is it proper etiquette, but at my work we have a close-knit group of 8 ladies and we all go stag to each others weddings.

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If they all end up coming, we'll end up about 10 people short of the max allowed. I guess I'll be adding spouses, I don't want to come off as rude. It still comes at a huge surprise to me, I would never expect to be invited to my fiance's coworkers' weddings as they have no connection to me and I would only know my fiance.

Any advice for wording the ones that I already corrected? Anything I can come up with comes across as too "I guess spouses are invited after all even though I originally said I didn't want them."

I decided not to invite a few people from work because that would’ve meant they would bring their spouses.

I only invited the people that I actually wanted to share the event with.

Weddings are personal and emotional.

I had two former co-workers that are married, but currently living separately. Their 2 yo (he’ll be 3 next Monday) son was my 💍🐻er.

I’m happy to report that they are now trying to move forward (while taking it slowly) towards reconciliation because they were able to talk with and enjoy each other’s company at my Wedding on Saturday.

She text me yesterday re: going on a double date.

I mentioned it to him and he replied that they had been talking about working things out since the Wedding.

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I am very close to some of my coworkers, we hang out outside of work. I felt it would be rude to invite only some of them and not all, so that's why I originally chose to invite all of them (sans spouses).

Yes, spouses/bf/gf/partners should have been invited so you should accommodate.

However if you have any single coworkers you don't have to give them a plus one.