Adding Tulle Skirt

Amazon Skirt. What do you think?

I'm not exactly sure that tulle goes with lace. I think it might look weird.

I know you said you don't like the look of a sash, but have you tried having something like a small metal belt? I attached a picture of something similar to what I'm describing. Also, adding a crinoline slip underneath might help puff out the bottom a bit so it doesn't look so straight.

Hmmmm- I like the idea, however the dress has an empire seam which may look odd with the skirt- for 40 it'd be worth it to try!

@ Awkward I do like the look of the sash but it just doesn't seem to be enough. It is the same look as in this pic. I was going to do the sash along with the skirt.

Sadly, the dress has a very tight lining so I don't think there is anyway to put anything under it. It came from Davids so I could take it there to see if they have a crinoline they recommend.

I think you look beautiful in that dress and it fits you perfectly. You have a great figure for it. But I understand what you mean about being comfortable and your idea of using a sash would work well with that dress and ease your mind. I also think the dress already suits the more mature look you want versus adding the tulle skirt. That tulle skirt is gorgeous but it makes me think of a flower girl or someone much younger, especially with the lace on your dress. That combination is actually what my flower girls are wearing. ETA: who is the designer of the dress you posted with the sash - it's beautiful!

I just found the pic on Pinterest. No clue who the designer is. Thank you for the feedback and compliments. I wish I had more contrast between my waist and lower level. I have curves but I feel the dress alone makes me look square. I added straps/sleeves to the dress as it was strapless so I wasn't tugging at it all day. This is classic dress regret but I didn't buy this one. I paid $350 to get alterations so I'm invested and I would break my DIL's heart if I decided at the last minute to not wear her dress, but it just doesn't feel right.

I mean, instead of buying a skirt. Why not just buy a ball gown? I am sure you will feel much better in a dress you love!

Or look on etsy!

https://www.etsy.com/listing/293313263/soft-tulle-lace-trim-overskirt-with?ref=related-5

Wear that dress to the reception and get a dress you feel more comfortable in for the ceremony or visa versa.

I think sometimes we over think too much about what others are thinking when in reality they are not thinking nearly as much as we think. Whew that was a mouthful. Anyway, I re-read your post and zeroed in on the fact that this dress was your DIL's "dress regret" so she rejected it for one that made her truly happy. You need to do the same. I think she will understand since she did the same thing. You just need to speak up and stay true to what makes you happy. In the end, I'm sure she wants you to be happy and would not want to be the source of your unhappiness. Go for the ballgown!

She changed her dress at the last minute? Why can't you?

She will understand

Truth? I think you look absolutely gorgeous in that dress as is and shouldn't change a thing.

If I look half as good as you at 44 I will consider myself to be one hell of a lucky lady.

I actually think you look beautiful as is. It doesn't look "young." You are gorgeous!

I think you look absolutely beautiful in the dress. I don't think it looks too young or that it makes you look boxy. But my opinion isn't important here, and neither is your daughter in laws. Your opinion is the only one that matters for your wedding dress.

I like the idea of adding a tulle skirt but I'm not sure it would work with this dress. You already have the empire waist going, I think it might look strange to have a tulle skirt that starts further down.

If you don't like the dress or don't feel comfortable in the dress, get a new dress. If I had to guess, I'd think your dil was excited about you wearing it because it means the dress is being used even though she changed her mind. Don't worry about that. Think about your comfort level and ask yourself if you love the dress. If you don't, get a new one.

The dress is beautiful and so are you,. I am 5'1" and even my petite dress is too long. Lace edge make is super expensive to alter so I will be adding tulle for a couple of reasons... One because I am a shorty and need to eat up length and the other is so my dress doesn't walk between my legs when I move. A little goes a long way and when you walk it will help to kick the dress out a little so you do not trip or tear.

Wow! You all know how to build a girl up. Thank you for the kind comments. I would absolutely love to start over and send more money on "the one for me" but truth is, like many of you have stated, everyone I show pics to including my daughter and step daughter to be has said the dress is perfect for me. My daughter and step daughter to be were with me yesterday at the last alteration appt.

I have invested so much money in this "day" and it's not even my first wedding. I spent $350 to make this dress right for me. It's heavy and not ever anything I would have picked. My DIL and my son scrapped the big wedding and decided to elope last November. She bought a much more casual dress online that was perfect for the occasion.

Instead of me focusing on the dress being the "one" it's better to focus on the person I'm marrying as bring the "one". He loves me no matter what I wear.

You all were so helpful with your suggestions and incredibly kind words. Thank you so much for taking time away from your busy lives and planning of your own to write such sweet things.

The sash creates a waist and it cost $10 on Etsy. I'm 5'1 also and empire waists are not flattering on me. My DIL is 5'9.. My heels are 3 inches because FH is 6'3.

Here is DIL's dress she wore for the elopement. She wore cowboy boots because they got married on my parents farm.

You should ask the alterations people and tell them your concerns. I think it's beautiful!

It's not super fitted. I think it looks great on you. You can totally rock that dress without adding a skirt. But if you don't feel beautiful in it, I think you should seriously consider finding a new dress. It really makes all the difference when you feel good about how you look. All eyes are on you and if you feel uncomfortable it will show. Your DIL, of all people, should understand! She went through the same thing!

I think you can totally rock this dress! But if you think you still want to go with the skirt I say go for it! I've added a [half?] tulle skirt with an all lace dress and I fell in love. It will make a difference when I get them in both white and add a black sparkley belt, which may make you love it even more, but here's a pic.