I was planning on leaving off anything like - "Formal Attire" or "Black Tie Optional" on my invites, but my FMIL thinks I should include it. I am against putting black tie optional on the invites because 1) it comes off as rude and 2) grooms/groomsmen are wearing navy suits so it seems contradicting. I'm sure most sensible people will wear a dark color suit to an evening spring wedding at an upscaled hotel? I think she wants to include it because she knows a few people on her ex-husband's side would be the type of people to show up in khakis/jeans and a polo. What are your thoughts? I know we cannot control what our guests wear and that isn't my intent...but would people be that silly?
I am completely against putting blacktop optional, but would it look silly to put "formal attire". We did indicate "formal" attire on our website (the knot.com), but a lot of the older guests won't utilize the website that much. Thanks!