Addressing Invitations for Plus Ones

If someone is in a relationship, make every effort to address by name - so definitely reach out to ask. If it's a single person and you're offering a plus one, just use: Jane Doe & guest.

I personally would offer plus ones even if you don't think they'll bring someone if you have the space and budget for them.

I’d just write “guest” and hope they’d write in the name on the RSVP.

If someone is in a relationship they are an automatic invite, not a plus one. A true plus one is a very optional random stranger who is not attached to anyone.


You contact the guest to find out the name and list them by name, regardless if you have met them or not.
Do you have the space and budget for strangers whom you will never see again? Many couples don’t allow plus ones for singles (due to space and budget) because their guests know others in attendance and have a great time.

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Ok michelle

If they are in a relationship then their significant other is technically not a plus one as they are a social unit and should be invited as such. That being said you should definitely try to confirm the person's name if you don't already know it. Additionally, it is completely up to you if you want to allow someone who is truly single to bring a plus one. If so then in that situation I would write and guest.

If they're in a relationship then you should put their significant other's name. "and Guest" implies they can bring whoever they want, which might not be your intention.

"Guest" is reserved for a random person.

Typically, if a person is in a relationship, you invite their SO and you take the time/effort to learn what that person's name is and include it on the invitation. If you write in "guest" it means they could literally invite anyone. Reserve guest for "plus ones" only.

I personally hate "plus ones" and consider them optional. A couple is considered a social unit and both people should be invited together.

Ask the persons name.

Plus ones are for those in a relationship.