Adult Flower Girl?

^ I agree with Bee, 1 reading will be fine. More than that could be stressful for her.

A reading would be nice. I do think the adult flower girl concept works well with grannies though.

I asked my 9 year old cousin and she told me she was too old to be a flower girl.

Yes Jaz, because anyone can officiate...it's JUST like walking down the aisle and throwing petals.

FSS.

She could be, but if she isn't close to you don't include her. Let her be a guest. In theory, that's a position of honor too.

You already have a huge bridal party, but your wedding isn't until 2018?

I think any adult other than grandma (which is kinda cute) would be weird AF.

I don't see the problem with this as long as she isn't insulted.

I'm 38 and would totally be a flower girl. I'd be throwing petals everywhere.

Why do you have your BP picked and set a year and half before your wedding? That's very premature.

She must be a young 23, because I personally would be offended as other PPs have stated. You don't *need* another groomsmen, the sides don't have to be even. I would just add her in, they're all wearing different dresses anyway, what's the real problem with one more "bridesmaid?"

That is ridiculous. If I was her I would pass. You can have uneven bm and gm.

Um, my 10 and 12 year old nanny kids are too old to be FG's. They're going to be my junior bridesmaids, a title you can't really give to a 23 year old. Just make her a bridesmaid. If she's in the wedding party, the only changing expense would be to a bouquet from flower petals. I can't see how that would save you enough money for this to be worth it. You still have to get her a gift.

Ok so you cant add a BM but you can add a FG, that makes no sense you still need to do the same things for both.

Also you don't need equal sides on your wedding party. I would be humiliated if I was asked to do something this stupid.

Maybe I'm weird but I don't see a problem with am adult flower girl. I'd totally do it and I'll be 27 next month. Haha. I will say, as someone who chose their bridal party way in advance, you really don't want to commit to anyone in your bridal party unless it's really close family. Friendships change and you could end up regretting having them in your bridal party, even if they've been close friends for years

I'm 23 and would refuse to be a flower girl because I know people would be side-eyeing me...

I'm older and don't care as much what people think of me anymore. That's the freedom that comes with being almost 40.

Flower petals for everyone!

Let her read a passage, do the guest book or sing a song. An adult flower girl? Oh puhleez.

She wanted to be a BM, and you picked them way too early. You're not getting married for a year and a half. Plus, if your wedding party is so huge, what difference does it make to add one more BM? The only difference is the dress she'll be wearing. She'll still walk out right after the wedding party playing the role of a child. Super insulting, and deep down, she's knows it -- she's just pretending it's funny. Honestly, it's not funny. I know, as a guest, I'd wonder what the bride was thinking when she made that choice.

There's something different when one or two grandmothers drop flower petals in the aisle (as long as they aren't carrying tiny baskets in their adult hands). They are of a different generation, and it feels heartwarming, almost a show of their blessing on the marriage. But a woman who is a peer of the other BMs? It's just going to look like she pulled the short straw.

Jennifer, I'm with you on the signs. It's not a silent movie, it's a wedding. However, you're not looking for the lesser of two evils (you said one is more insulting than the other). I have a suspicion you're going to do this, and I seriously hope you see the light.

I think it's cute and I would find it funny if I was a at your wedding.

How about a honorary hostess. I had one cause one my friends could not afford to be bm so I gave her that title,she still got a bm gift and hung out with us in the bridal suite. Since my colors we're royal blue (bm's) gold (MOH) I put her in coral and the dress was only 30 bucks Amazon. She was happy with that title and I was happy she still could be apart of my wedding. (Also your bridal party does not have to be even numbers. I was short one she was very ill so my last bm walk with 2 Gm's.

Am I the only one who would find this hilarious? It might not be great for you though if everyone is laughing right before you walk out, but I would find this incredibly entertaining especially if she commits....poofy short dress with the heart in the back, throwing pedals all over the place, skipping down the aisle

Why would your mom be upset if you added her as a BM, but would (presumably) be okay with having her be a FG?