Adults-Only or Kid-Friendly?

This has been a hot topic of discussion recently as we are forming our guest list. We are leaning towards adults only, but saying kids 12+ are ok. It’s a hard line but we have to draw it somewhere, right?

We are doing kid friendly, but not inviting all kids so that we don’t have so many! Just our flower girl/ring bearer, my little brother & sister, and a few kids we are close with!

Adults only except for immediate family members - nieces and nephews.

Kid friendly! My family is very big and they all have kids!

Kid friendly, we want to celebrate with all of our loved ones including the kids!

I'm ok with the kiddos

OK this one’s a tough one I’d love to have kids there because they’re my family and I love kids but at the same time I can’t afford to have a lot of kids there and I would want my adult friends to enjoy himself that night without their kids.

We are expecting six kids at our wedding:
My sister's 2 year old and (by then) 2 month old daughters, my cousin's 8 and 2 year old daughters and 5 year old son, and FH's cousin's 4 year old daughter. The 8, 5 and 4 year olds will be in the wedding. The toddlers will have a playdate with a babysitter in another room and the newborn will be cared for by my SIL's mother.

In Judaism, a person in mourning is not allowed to attend a wedding of someone they are not related to unless they are working at it. My SIL lost her father in January. She was already signed up as a bridesmaid, so she is still able to attend. My mom asked her mother to be in charge of the baby for this reason. The baby can receive undivided attention while the babysitter focuses on the toddlers. Toddlers are a handful, you know?

I'm really torn on this. I love kids and have a lot of friends with kids. However, I generally end up being the one babysitting them (they gravitate towards me, what can I say?!) and I don't want to have to do that on my day.

We are having an adult only wedding and reception.

Some well behaved kids ok

Adults only, it’s a formal/black tie optional wedding. Ceremony doesn’t start till 5 so the only kids that will be there are the 3 flower girls and ring bearer, who are our nieces and nephew.

We're having our Reception be 16 and over

Adults only.

It's not that I have any problem with kids being there, but most of our friends don't have kids yet and those who do aren't super close. If we invited kids we would have actually ended up with a bunch of teenagers who we would have had to pay full price for. We did invite close family though.

ETA: I have never been to a wedding where kids were a "problem" or "distraction". In theory, I see no issue.

We said that anyone flying into town can bring their kids and the children in the wedding party. Anyone else, we said no to kids over 2 years old at the wedding.

We have so many friends and family with children and really wanted to maximize the amount of adult we could invite.

Adult only

Kid friendly. We have two daughters and a lot of our friends and family have kids too!

At my wedding we have requested an adult only event. However the only kids that will be there will be our kids ( 4 of them) and the 2 flower girls (the cousin of the Bride, and the niece of the Bride, and the nephew of the Bride) They are all older and dont have to be watched. Our youngest is 7. however we made this known from the beginning so it should be a surprise to nobody. I also want people to be able to enjoy and have fun, without worrying about what their children are doing. I also dont want anything broken or tampered with. Its been no kids for us since day 1.

Adult only