When I got married 11 years ago, I was on TheKnot. So I am assuming this is similar. I am here for some feedback and advice. This may be a little long but I just want to hit the high points.
Little background. My husband and I had a large part in raising our niece who is 10 years younger than me. We grew up together basically. She was in our wedding and very involved in all special aspects of our life. Very important to us. My husband is walking her down the isle and I am so proud of that. She has a toddler with her soon to be husband and we LOVE him and are so proud of the life they have started building together.
All that being said we have been helping to plan/pay for the wedding along with our in-laws. Nothing crazy and Bride/Groom make the major decisions with budget provided in mind. It's all been pretty smooth sailing. Then came the shower/bachelorette party planning. Her two bridesmaids both being young had never given either a bridal shower/bachelorette party before. In our family it has always been Aunts/Great Aunts will help the bridal party host a bridal shower. Cuts down on cost and plenty of help. It's never been an issue and in our area how most people handle the occasions.
I reached out to the bridal party after getting the okay from my niece to offer my help. It started great and they chatted back and forth. Along the way I didn't agree with using my "Party Patio" as a place to host an outdoor shower in rainy/cold February. I simply said the time of year wasn't ideal for the elderly family members that would be attending. I offered up some other suggestions even offering my home. One of the places is a rural B&B which was shot down for being to "fancy". After that the conversation slowed down. The maid of honor went to my niece and read her all the messages asking her if she was being rude. It just went downhill from there. The bachelorett party was no different. I politely told them I would take a step back and would help if they needed it that I just wanted my niece to have the best time. The MOH doesn't speak to me now and unfriended me on social media. I cancelled the bookings I had made on my CC for the bachelorette party so they could handle it from there.
I have thrown multiple showers and we all always look on pinterest and bounce ideas back and forth via text. That is EXACTLY what I did with the MOH. I told her they were just ideas and these were things I had done in past experience. I 100% had no intention of being in charge and just wanted the best for my niece. I tried to talk to my niece about this after I was informed the MOH went to her about it. It didn't really go well. Apparently, my ideas came off to her as though I didn't think she could throw a nice shower even though we were tossing ideas back in forth. Nothing EVER came out of my mouth to indicate that.
Now I just feel ready for it to be over. What is so special seems strained but only on my end. I would NEVER let my niece know because this should be a special time for her. I didn't get to help give her shower and I doubt she has a bachelorette party. Am I being overly sensitive? That has been know to happen..lol. How should I handle the MOH issue? I dread the times I have been around her since. I guess I am not even sure of my real question. I just hate I feel so bitter about it.
TIA.
