Advice for First Year of Marriage

Don't complain or bitch about him to your friends or family. Ever.

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My "sage wisdom" from 9 years (co-habitating for 5):
1. Talk sooner about money than later - and incorporate what money *means* to you. To me, $ is security - if I have enough money everything is safe. To him, $ is freedom - with it he can do what he wants. It does produce some different budgeting, so we've had to strike a balance.
2. Intimacy is different than sex. Be intimate every single day - a kiss, a long hug when you get home, etc. We hug for about 30 seconds every day and just breathe - it's my favorite.
3. HAVE TWO BATHROOMS - zomg. I don't know what other people argue about but my lord, I will be so happy to have a second bathroom in our new place.
4. Don't air your business to other people (except maybe a counselor?) - repeating negative thoughts about your partner is a poison. It's not productive, and your friends are likely to chime in/ jump off because they want to support you. It's harder to get back to the positive after digging a negative hole.
5. I keep a journal of times when my partner does something extra special - not picking up the milk, but like gold star efforts. When we hit a wall of "who the hell did I end up with grumble grumble" - I go read the pages, and take a breath. Or two. And a walk. And a glass of wine.

Cheers!

I found this website helpful when I began to run out of ideas, and our relationship began to get rather stale....Hope this helps.

https://www.thedatingdivas.com/blog/

Hello
i been married 5 long years i say long bc weve been through thick and thin. . .We aren't able to have as much qulity time because none of our families live close by to help with the kids. But we know to have a stable and growing marriage quality time is needed. Ill also say i had to and still have to grow with the area of patiences bc that's what makes things rocky ...i still trying to accept some of his flaws ...In a marriage you wanna see growth and each day a marriage will grow.
Some advice I would say is spend as much quality time and gain to have patience...patience once you have that there are always room for growth, acceptance and learning eachother.