I'm having a DW with about 50 guests in a few months. I didn't want a shower or bach party because everyone is spending a lot to come to our wedding, but my mom and sister are insisting. I'm very grateful, but I'm having anxiety because I really don't like attention or feeling like I have to entertain/make sure people are having fun. It's also a small list for the shower (about 30 invited), and my mom and sister keep making comments about how it's going to be small compared to what we're used to, which just makes me feel a little silly for having one. I really didn't feel comfortable inviting anyone who wasn't invited to the wedding, and we chose a wedding guest list on the smaller size for multiple reasons. And it's the same for the bachelorette, I only have 2 close friends, 2 sisters, and my FH sister. I don't want a trip or anything costly for that either because again, they're spending money for the wedding itself. I guess social media intimidates me with bride's having a large crew. I don't want to sound ungrateful. I was totally okay without having either event, but then they both make comments about how both won't be a lot of people but that I have to have one.
Am I overthinking it? Are there other brides that have smaller sized events like this?
