Advice needed! Bridal shower venue

I think no matter what you choose, you better check to make sure you fall into the CDC guidelines of total number of people in an enclosed area.

If your HOA clubhouse even allowing large groups? Maybe you could do it outdoors under a large tent at your mom's house? Get some fans or even consider doing an Brunch shower so that way you're following CDC guidelines, keeping everyone safe and still having the party you want to.

View Quoted Comment Yea there is 100% no way to social distance in her house. The room at the community center is for 100 and we’d only have 20-25 so it would work in that space! I suggested brunch and she said it doesn’t give people traveling enough time to get there if they travel Saturday..

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Sounds like you would really like the community center - I would just check to see they are allowing visitors. - Here locally (NC) - Most community centers are not only locked up for no use, but the pools and such are not allowing any visitors.

We were supposed to have my shower in a restaurant in Chicago, but now we’re doing a big tent in my mom’s yard with about 35 people. It’ll be at 11:00am for brunch. We’ll have some fans and cold drinks and such. It allows us to space out enough and not worry about being stuck in one room in the house. I think it’s okay to tell your mom you prefer the community center, but then let her go ahead and plan the rest with help from your bridal party. If the community center isn’t available, I think it’s okay to plan for outdoors. People may not stay more than a couple of hours if it’s really hot, but it’s summer and it’s to be expected. These are crazy times and I think people are more understanding of certain things because of the situation we’re in. Whatever you do I hope you enjoy!

I think then it would be good to tell your mom that you'd like to move the location

Stay out of it. It is as rude to mom and any co-hostesses for you to srep in and override their plans, as it would be for your various wedding guests to change the plans you made for your wedding.
You are the GUEST of honor at your shower. Let the hosts do the planning, and you stay out of it as a courteous guest should. You know, your mom was an adult, and planned things, before this. She and any co-hostesses ( not BP not taking responsibility, actual co-hostesses) can make decisions without you. Not only are home showers often a huge cost savings, and often less work transporting things. When people volunteer to do an event, they quite rightly expect to be making key decisions. Nature of party, budget, how much advance prep, enjoyment of cooking, and lots of other things might please mom about having it in her home. She need not invite all 25, if a smaller number suits her. The host, not the guest of honor, decides how many. The G of H, bride, only suggests some on the guest list whom she feels closest to. But whether 15, 20 or 30 are invited, is up to the hosts. Not you. So your suggestion, Shh!

I think it might be a good idea to suggest the community center or the tent, for everyone's safety.

While usually the bride doesn't have anything to do with the shower, weird times throw out the guidelines.

View Quoted Comment I agree with what you said under normal circumstances however I don’t feel they are concerned about safety... that’s my issue. I’d feel absolutely horrible if someone got sick from being in too close quarters for that long without proper social distancing.

View Quoted Comment Then let that be the only thing you say. Wherever the shower is, people must be at least 6 feet apart, and wear masks when not actually eating.
Then, keep out of it Let Mom and whoever decide: do they cut down to 15, do they survey the 25 -30 they planned? Because if only 15 are coming anyway, relocating is a waste of time. Or do they have 2 small showers, only you are at both. With Mom hosting one, and a bridal parry member doing the other, with anyone else co-hosting helping out. They may cohost, and themselves decide, we cannot do the seating, and go elsewhere. The point is, let them do it, and not you. There are Multiple possible choices. It os not up to the bride. It is up to them. As with any time there is a safety concern ( 2 people allergic to bee stings and garden in bloom shower, n beverage or food safe for diabetics) it is fine to make people aware of a problem. No shower without social distancing and masks ( except when eating.) That is a condition. But whether they cope by cutting number, having 2 small ones, finding out only 10-15 of people coming anyways, or relocating, that is not up to you to suggest. And Mom and others are justifiably upset with you . You are a guest. You owe them an apology. And explain, you were just worried about social distancing, but as long as they are taking care of that, you will butt out. ... Separately: I have now been to one wedding and one shower with social distancing. Both had something that may or may not be true for you. A wedding of 50 plus WP, needed only 2 tables for five, rest small tables for 2-4. Because some guests, couples, small families, coworkers, a couple neighbors alternating child care, who have been sharing small spaces together for weeks or months. Like me, my housemate in duplex, and our two daughters. A mother, her grown 2 daughters and a teen granddaughter. So clusters close together, 8 feet or so from another cluster, possible. And a shower of 16, which had 4 pairs or triplets ( relatives or workers in small spaces) and only 6 singles. So, pods , with distance between them. Easy in a dining area with low divider to living room. Entrance and exit from food area one way. Someone serving onto small plates, putting on cart, (wedding) or arms' distance on a table shower.) However done, is their decision.

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I'm sorry but why the aggression. If she feels like she doesn''t want her shower in her mothers cramped living room due to no social distancing why would you tell her to stay out of it. She is a part of it. I'm not understanding where the aggression and forward talking is coming from. She is the guest of honor It's her mom she can have an opinion.

Re-read your comment with a different prospective and see how you come off like your scolding a child.

Brittany find out about another spot or don't have the shower at all because if you aren't comfortable or its not what you truly want then why bother. It is for you after all. the one person who should be accommodated. God Forbid you get to be selfish by asking for a room to accommodate 25 people during a pandemic.