Hi all. I'm new here and not engaged, just joined to get some advice about a friend of mine. She is getting married in October in Texas. I am in California, where she is originally from. She is the second from our friend group to get married, so I am unsure of the etiquette or if I crossed a line. With my other friend, our friend group (all bridesmaids) planned her bachelorette party. She still lives here and everything was local. My friend no longer lives here, but I was thinking about it and wondered if she would want a bachelorette party, and didn't want her to miss out because she lives away from her friend group. She is also not having any bridesmaids, just her 16-year-old sister as her MOH. I sent her a FB message and asked if she had any interest in one, and if so, I would be willing to come out to TX in the next few months and organize something with her TX friends if she would like. She got very upset, and said that she would plan her bachelorette party if she wanted one and that it was not my job to plan something for her wedding, and not to make her wedding about me. I was very shocked. I did not know an offer would upset her so much. I apologized and said no pressure, I was just wondering. She then fired back that she does not like typical wedding traditions and I should know that. I am very hurt by this, and am very confused. Yes, I did know she is not into "traditional" wedding stuff, but I just wanted to ask to make sure. I thought friends were supposed to plan it so thought it best to ask instead of assume. Is it up to the bride to plan her bachelorette party or appoint someone to do so? With my other friend, we all did it together and she did not ask us to or plan, just agreed when we asked her if she wanted one. But that is my only experience in that area so maybe that was weird. I am going to call my friend I upset instead of continuing through FB, but I don't know what to say? Do I need to apologize to her? I feel like perhaps I did something else that is upsetting her and that is why she is reacting so strongly, but she and I have barely talked about her wedding so I am not sure what I could have done that could make her think I am making it about me? I will ask, but just wanted to reach out and see if I am completely off base and crossed a line and need to apologize. Thank you.
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