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GoldenJoy24
Savvy May 2024

Advice on Dealing with Friends Who Ignore Your New Relationship

GoldenJoy24, on June 3, 2024 at 8:00 AM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 4

Wedding was 9 days ago and was perfect!


I am slowly adjusting to married life and enjoying my time as a newlywed. It has been a blissful period, but one weird thing I have noticed is there are certain "friends" (I struggle to call them that, based on the behavior I am about to describe) that haven't congratulated me at all on my recent nuptials. These are friends that I have been with through college graduations, marriages, family deaths, divorce, etc. One friend in particular I haven't heard from since I got engaged -- she reached out to say congratulations, and after that I have tried to stay in touch, even inviting her to the wedding, etc. with no response whatsoever. Recently, I've noticed she's viewed my story on Instagram several times since the wedding, so she knows I've gotten married, she was also invited to the wedding but chose not to respond to the invite / follow up. She has also been active on social media commenting on other friends' posts. Have any of you experienced people PURPOSELY not acknowledging big life events such as weddings / marriages? It feels so weird that someone would go out of their way not to say something or acknowledge at all but yet still feel the need to watch stories, etc.

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Latest activity by LM, on June 4, 2024 at 8:26 AM
  • R
    Rockstar June 2018
    Rae ·
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    Watching people's Instagram stories rolls automatically so it's possible she didn't even choose to watch yours, and you can't even see how many times someone has viewed it. There's obviously a reason she isn't responding to you - you could either ask her why directly or accept that your friendship is over. It is going out of your way to acknowledge something, not to ignore it. Even sending a heart or message or something does take an effort.

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  • Michael
    Rockstar October 2023
    Michael Online ·
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    Some people can react somewhat negatively toward weddings and without any issue regarding your wedding.

    If you don't have any specific harm she has done to you, send her a simple message that you miss her and hope she is doing okay. Leave her on the inactive friend list and maybe send her another message like that a year later.

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  • Michelle
    Rockstar December 2022
    Michelle ·
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    Some people don’t care for weddings and that’s valid. Other people are not real friends in general and just use you for whatever they can get financially or emotionally. As far as social media, people tend to put way more emotional investment into it than necessary or healthy and they stop having human interactions as a result. Instead of wondering why she ignores your posts, call her and talk become only she can answer. Have a light conversation about what’s going on with her without accusing her of anything. Gauge the temperature of that conversation to decide if the friendship is worth keeping or moving on from.
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  • LM
    Super December 2022
    LM ·
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    I thought you were cutting off all those rude guests who didn't even bother to RSVP or text you back? They're not your friends and anyone can social media stalk. Make new friends who can be happy for your happiness.
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