Advice?

It's really hard telling without knowing your current relationship and what your plans are after the wedding. Do you live together? Do/have either of you lived on your own? Are you financially independent? Do you share finances? Do either of you have children? Do you expect relationships with those children to change after marriage? All things to consider. For some it's a huge adjustment. Some people live at home, have never spent the night with their SO, have remained abstinent, and have never paid a bill in their life. For some it's just a legality and they continue on with life as usual.

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Good points. I guess I should have put some of that in there. Thanks for pointing it out!

For us, there really was no adjustment. We had lived together for over 3 years, and owned a home together for over a year. We already had combined bank accounts, had discussed religion/politics/finances/children/etc. and agreed on views, and knew all of each other's friends & family. So I really think it depends on each couple!

Feeling grown up when I called him my husband and responding to my new name.

We lived together for three years so there weren’t any big adjustments for me.

For me it will be having a combined bank account. We have lived together for over a year now so nothing will change in that department. Only big change we waited for was a joint account and we wanted to wait until after the wedding when I had my name changed.

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That's beautiful that you already had all that going on before getting married. I would have liked to live together before getting married but it just didn't work out. Your profile is so sweet!

For us, there won't be any major adjustments to be honest. We've lived together since 2013, we have 2 daughters together. We've pretty much established our lives and have our own plus joint views on various aspects including financial, raising our children, etc. You'd most likely have to look at your current situation with your FS and think about what may change when you both tie the knot, and what to do in those situations, or simply how to adjust. Wishing you the best

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That's nice. It makes the transition from engaged to married so much easier.

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That makes scenes! I think it would have been nice to live together before but that just wasn't in the cards for us.

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Your situation sounds wonderful! Thank you for the advice. Best to you & yours!

View Quoted Comment It was definitely helpful but I think it would have also been fun to wait

Saying Husband lol! I felt like not a lot changed but we were already living together/combined finances.

I think this is a case by case scenario... reflect on how things currently are with you and FH and both of you will have to adjust to the situations.

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I'm so happy it worked out!

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I'm hearing a lot of similar responses. Good for you!

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Thanks! I really like your profile picture.

It really depends. Have you already been living together? Already had sex? I mean if not, I can't provide advice and would say its 100% different then if you HAVE already been living together and had sex.

In my case we'd been together 5 years, and lived together 4 of those years, and already WAY done the whole sex thing. So for us, there was no adjustments that happened after marriage EXCEPT when we finally did the complete merge of our bank accounts. In the end, it's totally fine, and I'm the one that had the biggest adjustment because I had less "frugal" money once our accounts became joined and I know how to keep track of EVERYTHING, but like I said, I wouldn't have it any other way.

If you don't live together yet there is a much bigger adjustment. How he sleeps. If he snores. When he brushes his teeth. Sounds he makes. The burping, the farting, the all things women do to but are for some reason 10x more gross with men LOL. The not picking up after themselves. The sound of two alarms going off, and even more if he snoozes them. The sound of a fan running when you like peaceful no sound in your sleep. How much space he takes up in the bed. ...then there is all the good things... him taking out the garbage, doing the dishes, helping with cleaning. Light kisses waking you up in the morning. Little presents to come home to. His smile when you make him laugh. and so much more.

It's a blessing. Wish you loads of luck! The pros outweigh the cons in my book, but everyone has a different situation and different SO.