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Let them be furious! I agree with previous poster who said to not tell them ANYTHING about your vendors, location, etc as they will meddle. What IS IT with weddings that make people loopy?? And if they threaten not to show up to your non Catholic wedding, say "Well that is your choice, we will miss you." Then talk about the weather, sports, Jennifer Lopez and Ben Affleck, ANYTHING!

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I agree with this. It was nice of them to offer, but be warry that most people consider monetary contributions to a wedding automatically deeming them the decision makers. If you both don't want a Catholic wedding, then graciously decline their offer and move forward.

My mother also offered to foot the bill for our wedding, but we'd have to have a Catholic ceremony. FH isn't Catholic, and I don't practice Catholicism anymore, so we declined. We came to an agreement, and she's splitting the venue cost ONLY with us. Her only stipulation was that we have to have real dinnerware and glassware (not paper/plastic), which was fine by us since the venue we wanted included that in the price. We also made sure to make it clear to her that she makes ZERO decisions besides that and what she wears lol.

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*instant eye roll* My goodness how childish of them. Seriously...people can get so butthurt when people don't agree with their religion and/or don't want to convert. Let them be furious, if they don't attend your wedding, then so be it. That just shows more of their character than yours.

View Quoted Comment I’ve been in RCIA— the Catholic “conversion class”, if you want to call it that, for adults for over a year now. The church generally only does baptisms at Easter but the parish we are marrying in is agreeing to baptize me before the wedding this fall since I’ll have been in RCIA for so long by that point.


Point is, converting to Catholicism isn’t just something you do. It’s a huge bureaucratic organization and they make you do a lot of stuff and there’s a long lead time so I’m a bit surprised these people just want you to convert so the wedding can have a full Mass. This likely comes down to them wanting their grandchildren to be baptized in the faith.
Very odd.

They don't want your family to attend your own wedding because they're Baptist? I'm the one who would be furious.


These people are toxic and controlling.

My dad believes in paying for his daughter's weddings but our requirement is to be married in a church. I am for one not a religious person at all. He wanted us to do it through a catholic church but they are so strict. So instead we are going with a community church.

View Quoted Comment Yeah it’s ridiculous as heck, we’re very furious about them not wanting my family at our wedding.

View Quoted Comment Their image is not strictly church, either. But it is true that while they may attend, the Catholic Churches often will not allow Baptists to receive the host. It depends on the priest. And their guidelines for dresses, like any Baptist one I have ever seen are for a degree of modesty in church. But beyond Catholic things, that offer says, anything and everything we want. Nope.

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I would be furious too! They definitely crossed the line with their demands.