By all means, I don't want to turn into a bridezilla so I haven't given really strict instructions to anyone. Anytime I make a decision I double check with my fiance, my bridal party, friends who are also planning weddings, and I sleep on it for a while. But because of that some of my bridesmaids decided they didn't want to go with what I asked them for and said they would send me their alternatives and ask if that was okay. Recently one bridesmaid told me she hadn't really looked for anything yet while other bridesmaids have already gotten their entire outfits (accessories and all) approved.
When booking makeup I asked my bridesmaids what they thought and they all said it was a waste of time and they can do their own makeup. I then asked m bridesmaids permission for me to get just my makeup done, and I don't know why I asked permission, its my face and my money but I still asked bridesmaids. I even asked my bridesmaids if my save the dates were okay and if the catering made sense and they even have say in what my wedding cake will look like.
In summary. I'm asking permission to plan my own wedding and I know its my own fault but I'm afraid that if I don't keep treading lightly I'll micromanage everything and become a dreaded bridezilla. On the other hand, being too loose with them might be giving them wedding burnout since they're hearing about it any time I make a decision.
any advice would be greatly appreciated, sorry for the long message over potentially nothing