After Party Wording

Replace the word "and" in your sentence with "if". You should also make sure the guests know that a shuttle won't be available at the end of the after party.

I don’t think it implies that you’d be paying! I think the shuttle there would be a nice surprise. We are doing an after party too but the bar is at the venue. I hope I’m not too exhausted!

Honestly, having it listed on your wedding website reads "hosted" to me. I've never been to an after party that was advertised that way that wasnt hosted. I would take that off your website and just tell people by word of mouth.

I agree with pp. Take it off wedding website and spread info by word of mouth to avoid confusion.

Agreed with others. Listing it on your official wedding website makes it sound like an official wedding event. Just let your friends and family know via word of mouth that you guys will be going to xyz bar if they want to tag along.

Pretty much every wedding I’ve been to has had an after party and it’s always been spread by word of mouth. Basically at the end of the reception, someone just announces “we’re going to Super Fun Bar! See you there!” Agreed with PPs to leave it off the website.

Have any of you felt that you were not invited when just spread by word of mouth? I have some OOT cousins that I don’t want to feel uncomfortable coming.
What if I added something along the lines of “ Cash bar. Snacks on us”?

I think its OK to put it on the website.

We have 2 hotel blocks reserved. One next to our venue, and one next to the after party location. I want people to know what our after plans are so they can choose their hotel accordingly.


Maybe you dont need to specifically mention the after party. Just list in the transportation section and people will get the idea. Shuttles will be provided after the reception to both XYZ Hotel and ABC bar.

View Quoted Comment I agree, guests need the information to plan accordingly and I have it listed on our website.

Our after party will be in the restaurant of the hotel venue, in a private room. We will cover up to XXX amount of snacks (chips, pretzels, maybe pizza) and unlimited soda (maaaaaaybe beer/wine) and hopefully a champagne toast at midnight, but other alcohol will probably be a cash bar. We're still working this out with the venue.

We will have had a 4 hour reception with an open bar, so I don't really see this as being stingy.

Our wedding ends at 10pm as well and our crowd will also still want to party so we are doing an after party at the hotel bar near our venue that offers shuttle service. I am not mentioning it on our website or in any formal way since it will not be hosted. We are telling people by word of mouth and that is it. We might order some pizzas but guests will have to pay for their own drinks.

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If it is on the website, I'd assume you are paying. We are paying for late night munchies at our after party but not drinks. We plan to spread the word by word of mouth only.

I think it's pretty clear, in my opinion.

I wouldn't expect anyone to be paying for anything after the reception was over so yes I think its pretty clear