More just me venting my insecurities lol. So...when my fiancé I and first met, we didn't know we had an age gap. He was really mature, patient, and kind. And we got all of each other's pop culture references! So imagine my surprise when he turned out to be 9 years younger than me LOL. I will admit I sometimes have to teach him things (like who Alanis Morissette is, or why The Sandlot is such a great movie), but other than that we can't tell there is a difference.
On his end, people mistake me for late 20s/early 30s all the time (thank you for those genes, mom!) So he couldn't tell either lol.
So while we are ok with it on the surface, as a female in a society that places so much value on our youth/looks, it's a constant stresser for me. Like sure you're cool with me being 38 when you're 29....but what about when you're in your 30s still and I'm pushing 50? It terrifies me and I wish I could let it go because I KNOW he loves me and does not care. I have brought up these fears and he always softly laughs and kisses my forehead and says he would never be able to find another "me" even if he tired, and that I am the one he wants to be with.
So now our wedding is next year and I am realizing his family does not know about the age difference, nor the fact that I have been married twice already (first time I was an 18 year old Mormon virgin, and second time he was a narcissist who would not stop cheating on me and had secret credit cards etc). I feel like I am "used goods" and that his family is secretly going to be judging me, eve if they don't say anything out of being polite. See, I am so mean to myself! Lol.
Anyone else have an age difference like this that causes you anxiety? What do you do/tell yourself to help you get over it?