Alcohol at bridal shower ?

I've never been to a shower without alcohol and would fully expect it to be served, especially if it's in a restaurant.

That said, you don't need to have a full bar. At my shower, they offered champagne, mimosas, and wine, which is totally sufficient for a daytime affair.

100% not ok to have guests pay for their own drinks.

And fully agree that alcohol > favor

Wanting to have a glass of wine or champagne at an adult social event does not equate to ripping your shirt off and doing body shots. I don't know where some of you get the idea that having a drink = being a wasted mess. It doesn't, so stop using that as an excuse for poor hosting.

A bridal shower is not a necessity.

You asked if it was rude to not serve it. I don't believe it's "rude" but I think some of your guests will miss it.

What a nice thing to say about your closest friends/family who are coming to celebrate you.

And throwing her this party!

OP, do what you want, but the feedback you are getting is telling you that most expect some kind of adult beverage to be available. Why are you getting defensive if you aren't even hosting the party?

Anyway, I don;t drink either. I MAYBE have 6 drinks a year, typically at gatherings like this. I would absolutely expect to imbibe at a shower and I would be a bit disappointed if no alcohol was available.

You always have the option to decline the shower.

Serve alcohol. Seems like they won't spend a lot so just suggest a consumption bar, where the restaurant runs a tab and it gets paid at the end.

I think it is acceptable to have a shower with no alcohol! It's the preference of the people planning it and the person they are throwing it for. I doubt that any of your guests are going to throw a fit because they can't drink in the middle of the day for free!

I personally in your position would tell them it's not necessary. While it may be breaking etiquette, it's very expensive and I would feel bad if they paid that much more for an open bar. I realize that's not the way it "should" be handled, but that's how I would handle it. I think an open bar for a brunch is a bit much.

Eeeeeeeh I dunno. If it was at a restaurant and there wasn't alcohol readily available somewhere obviously free and I wanted something to drink I would probably just order something from the bar and pay for myself. I don't even think I would think that was weird.

Disclaimer: I have never been to a shower, nor did I have one, so I'm definitely not the voice of shower etiquette. Just saying that as a guest, with my level of knowledge about showers, I don't think I would think twice about having to pay for my own drinks.

That being said, if I ever hosted a shower for someone else, I would absolutely provide free alcohol if the venue allowed it. They could even just buy a few bottles of wine and champagne and call it a day. I don't think it has to be a totally open bar. I just wouldn't want people paying for things at an event I was hosting.

Sorry if that's no help lol

NO ONE said she needs to have an open bar. Everyone said wine and champagne/mimosas is fine. It can be done on consumption, so if only one person orders only one drink, they'd only be paying for that one drink.

OP, one has absolutely NOTHINGGGGG to do with the other. People can care about you and at the same time, be peeved that you didn't serve alcohol at your shower.

You straight up asked "What does everyone else think, do you feel it’s rude if we don’t serve it?"

So yes, I think it's rude, and very bad form to not serve at least wine at an adult affair. Not sure why you posted this if you didn't actually want answers to your question.