Alcohol at LDS reception

Do what Swin said.

And @Kelcey, BYOB is tacky and rude.

Swin, the mother doesn't seem to be LDS, because she wants alcohol.

AL, I know, I can read. You apparently cannot considering you said, "It sounds like the groom and his family are not."

Her first sentence of the post is, "My FH and I are both LDS"

OK, there's no need to be rude.

@CMC Thanks for your feedback!

Usually I'm on the alcohol bandwagon but for this I'd listen to any of our resident LDS members.

Also, OP, to add onto my original idea, you should get the bartender to serve some other drinks for the people that are LDS. You could have sparkling cider, lemonades, and juices along with the beer and wine so that the people who are drinking aren't the only ones using the service. Lots of LDS weddings just have lemonade that people self-serve out of those large glass canisters so this would be something that would be just better for all the guests.

@Swin: Sorry Friend. No Coke, Pepsi, tea or coffee. They all contain caffeine. Check with any LDS(Mormon) to confirm.

@Kelsey; there are no haters here, and that is about the most overused word on the planet besides 'bullying' which rarely describes an actual bullying situation. And advising anyone to make their wedding BYOB elevates the wedding from merely rude, dull and cheap to dangerous.

The day, by the way, is only about the couple if NO ONE ELSE COMES. But they see fit to insult the MIL by just telling her they don't want to serve alcohol.

And it's wrong. Because once they invite that side of the family, there is an obligation to be good hosts.

Nancy.... I'm LDS.

Now God hates caffeine too?

Nope. Every church I've ever served has run on caffeine. And every AA meeting as well, by the way.

We can drink caffeine. Whether or not we do is a person choice.

No prob, just want to make sure that OP doesn't think that BYOB is a good idea. It can also be dangerous, as Celia said. People are much more likely to drink waaay too much without a licensed bartender serving the drinks.

Guys...the subject of serving alcohol is not up for debate. It's not happening. How do I tell my FMIL politely without it becoming a point of argument and discord with her?

You don't.

Brandi? There is no way to do that. And if you think it won't cause a riff in your relationship? You're wrong. Because you're completely disregarding her point of view and no one loves that.

"Sorry FMIL; we don't think anyone should drink, so there won't be any alcohol at the wedding, whether you like it or not, whether it will embarrass your friends or not."

Good luck sugarcoating that one.

I'm LDS, and while most of my guests are as well, there are some who aren't so we are serving wine, but that's our decision. However, if you are that strongly opposed to it I would make sure that your guests are aware ahead of time to not expect alcohol. Also let your MIL know that it's YOUR wedding and your decision. Tell her that it's not up to her to decide how you and FH celebrate your day, and that she's welcome to host a party where the guests can drink afterward if she so chooses.

Good question, FB99. I second it.

Also, Brandi, did you read my suggestion?

Swin, I did read your suggestion and I was planning on the self-serve punch idea. Thank you

Is the punch going to have alcohol in it?