Alcohol at LDS reception

I'm sure not all of you guests are LDS so host them properly! Have alcohol at the reception.

Just tell her NO. We don't drink end of story. Deal with it! Lol. We don't drink either but are doing a cash bar for the people who do.

OMG NO CASH BAR.

Yeah, it's worth yelling.

OMG. No cash bar. No weird spiked punch. Just buy beer and wine.

What's LDS?

Negron, it's a religion. It's commonly referred to as Mormon.

Brandi, you didn't read my post then. I veto'd that idea and said have it all at the bar with a bartender and some alcohol.

I am not going to have alcohol in my wedding because the venue that I rented will not allowed it. And in the state of Virginia they are kind of strict with that. But I will have an after party with drinks at my house afterwards.

Oh god, now cash bars are in the mix. What's next? Potluck?

Audrey, new venue. People aren't going to come over to your house after you have a dry wedding.

Just have your FH tell her there will not be alcohol and the matter is closed for discussion. I have zero problems with dry weddings due to sincere religious convictions, and the Muslim weddings I have been to have been a blast. Asking people to violate religious convictions doesn't sit well with me. I wouldn't think my Jewish friends were terrible hosts for not having pork, I don't think my Muslims friends are terrible hosts for not providing booze, so as long as it is a sincere belief LDS is the same to me. I used to cater LDS weddings from time to time and there were always quite a few special drink options, mostly lemonade based but also things based on fruit puréed like passion fruit or guava.

Neuron, people who are LDS are a member of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. If you want to know what they really means you can check out www.mormon.org

A.L.C well my FH family don't drink at all and mines do. Actually I talk to my family about the after party and they were fine with the idea. No hassle and no worries and this was something I spoke to them within time.

@Audrey, nobody is going to tell you to your face that your reception is rude.

A.L.C my family would tell me in my face and still nothing would change about the reception. And another thing is that I am a Seven Day Adventist, and we don't drink. The People that are invited are from the same church that I attend, and my FH family don't drink. And like I already mentioned before, my family understands and respects others religion and decisions. It's not the end of the world.

Okay, I'll bite because it's a rare Saturday that I'm not officiating.

How did any religion decide to ban wine and caffeine? Why do people put up with that? I'm not being snotty, I just completely don't understand it, as much as I don't understand 90% of the rules made by humans for Catholics. If you do this, you're deserving of God's grace; if you don't toe the line, you're going to hell (another human construct, by the way....)

Of course, everyone is free to believe what they want, and if it gives them a good matrix of ethics, even better. But no one has been able to sufficiently explain to me any of these rules.

Celia, I think that question is a pretty common one to have, and I also think it has a deeper meaning and story than can really be just mentioned in passing on a Wedding message board. But, basically, members of the LDS church live by something called the "Word of Wisdom" which is basically a code of health. So, we abstain from harmful or addictive substances, which includes alcohol, drugs, and coffee. There are also some other aspects such as eating healthy and exercising sufficiently. Basically, if you are a healthy person without any sort of addictions, it makes it easier to serve God and help others.

I've been to a LDS wedding of two dear friends and had a great time. They hosted their guests really well, and there was no gossip (that I heard anyways) about the lack of alcohol. Nobody was expecting alcohol at a LDS wedding, and there wasn't any. I thought WW acknowledged that the bride and groom being LDS was one of those times where it's appropriate and fine etiquette-wise not to serve alcohol.

OP, I'd use the "bean dip technique" when she brings it up.... "We've already finished the drink menu, thanks, have you tried the bean dip?" Acknowledge her idea and gently change the subject.

Caffeine is addictive as well. You will talk to many people that say they can't function without their coffee in the morning.

Also, I'm really not trying to be preachy. I don't really like discussing my religion on WW because I just don't feel like there's any reason for it. But, if someone asks, I'll answer it.

Ok!! Swim, your explanation sounds great to me and believe me, The same way LDS think about health Seven Day Adventist do! : )

Caffeine is a highly addictive substance.