Alcohol at LDS reception

Lol at Nancy trying to tell Swin she knows more about being a Mormon than AN ACTUAL MORMON because she works near them.

Is Nancy actually a double ring or is she a vendor? Stupid app doesn't differentiate for me.

UO: dry weddings are not bad hosting. They may be boring and end earlier but they are not bad hosting. As long as drinks are provided (please have more than lemonade and water) then you are properly hosting. Alcohol is not required.

Nancy- LDS does not say no caffeine. The church asks that you limit your intake because it's not the healthiest of substances.

Swin- you're a strong one for going back and fourth with this. I also love that you explain the religion so well.

Fine. I was just trying to be supportive to the original poster. That's cool though. Did I judge any of you for your desire have alcohol at a reception? No. Learning to be less judgmental will only help you in the long run.

I am not a vendor. Why would you think that?

Just saw the comment about the cards.

Mormons don't purchase things on Sunday because it's suppose to be a day of rest and provide time to reflect on your faith. Please have a lesson with a missionary if you're so close to all the Mormons.

Nancy. Stahp. I think Swin knows more about LDS than you do.

Nancy, our resident Mormon expert, says you are wrong and will burn in hell, Swin. Be a better Mormon. Follow Nancy's rules.

So Nancy, you're a double ring 4 star poster??? Why haven't you updated your profile image?

And why are you arguing with Swin, a valued member of this community, about HER religion???

Being a good host, in 99% of all cases where adults will be invited to a party, spend money and time to go there and bring a gift, includes offering them a drink. You don't have to have shot girls and vodka flume ice scuptures, but something. It's kinda like being in OA and not offering trigger foods during dinner. (I'm not mouthing off about that with no knowledge; through my catering I have encountered this and it's just as difficult as dealing with alcohol.)

I dated a man who ran several AA group out of his home, and continued to do so when he moved to a dot of an island to teach sailing. You know what? Whenever I went to his house, he had a bottle of Champagne for me. It literally took six months before I even figured out that he was sober. As his guest and his girlfriend, he wanted me to be accommodated. Swin and others have underscored this in the most gracious way.

This is not your day. If you think it is? You'll be sorely disappointed if you haven't been already. And treating your guests in a minimal way won't go over so great.

I am not arguing with Swin. I grew up in a huge Mormon town and also teach in one. I've had missionaries at my house many times and a lot of the kids in my classes were/are Mormons. 2 rings is just fine. It's easier to find when scrolling.

Nancy- are you sure they are LDS? There are different branches with different beliefs. Some of the things you're saying are not part of the LDS church. As Swin has pointed out to you MANY times.

But you do keep arguing with her....you have repeatedly told her that what she is saying is wrong.

Nancy you must know because you met some missionaries once? That's cool. I was a missionary for 18 months. I think I know my religion.

I can see Russia from my back yard! So I'm qualified to be vice president!

If two "don't kill animals for food" vegans get married, they're probably not serving meat at their reception. If you support the couple and their lifestyle, you go celebrate with them knowing you're not getting steak for dinner. Likewise, if you're going to a wedding where the bride and groom are LDS, you're going because you love and support the couple, and you wouldn't expect them to host an event contrary to their beliefs.

OP listen to your FMIL and serve some sort of alcohol or elope. Unless everyone attending is of the religion then you have others to think about. I promise they won't melt if someone near them consumes a glass of wine. However I can promise that your reception won't last as long or be nearly as fun without it!

OP, I have to agree with Swin and Celia and several other PPs. If you have all guests that are LDS I would say it would be fine not to have alcohol if nobody is going to consume it, however if you have guests that are not LDS that are attending, having beer and wine with other mixed lemonades or juices served from a bartender would be the appropriate thing to do. You don't have to drink it, but when you invite people to your wedding it is no longer just about you. The reception is your way of thanking your guests for being present to celebrate your marriage, which includes properly hosting them. See if your venue would do a consumption bar of wine and beer, if the cost is an issues as well.

I also have a question, are your families paying for your wedding or are you and FH footing the bill? If your FILs are putting money down, they also have a say. Not that properly hosting should really up for discussion, but just out of curiosity.

I'll leave this here.

Swin- taking this kind of off topic but where did you serve ?! I'm so sad I wasn't part of the church to be able to go on a mission. My plan is to hopefully go on a couples mission with FH eventually.

Celia- omg. That just made me spit out my drink. Hahah