Alcohol opinions needed

I am a big brunch drinker, and I have never seen people drink wine and beer at brunch. I also go to weddings with cash bars all the time so clearly everybody has different crowds LOL. Maybe you should ask around your family and friends to see what they are inclined to do. Whether you host or they pay, having a full bar option is the way to go. (PS I would totally buy myself a bloody Mary and not think anything of it).

View Quoted Comment That's what I was thinking too honestly - it's like, my mom and my best friend won't care about spending $10 on their third drink (us covering enough for about 2 per person), and everyone attending is either close family or best friends.


I think we're going to talk to the venue about doing bottomless mimosas instead of bottomless bellinis as a possible option.

I think it's so interesting how different forums have different opinions! I asked this on a Reddit post too and most answers are different than here. We're even more conflicted than before tbh but I think we're going to ask about bottomless mimosas instead of bottomless bellinis and then if folks really want another drink, they can purchase.

View Quoted Comment That sounds like a perfect plan. As your guest, I would be delighted to be served bottomless mimosas!

Tbh I think go with your best judgment based on what you know about your guests. I don’t think there’s any point doing option 3, beer/wine during the day, if you’re not sure people will drink it. I think bottomless mimosas sounds like a much better idea. Also, I’ve been to many weddings with cash bars and have never heard any complaints or comments about etiquette. honestly, I often prefer them as people are less likely to get messy drunk. Maybe that says more about my group of friends/family 😂

We're expecting somewhere in the neighborhood of 150 guests and we know that the majority of our guests are not big drinkers. We are tossing around the idea of a simple wine toast for the speeches/toasts during dinner, but other than that we were both in agreement to not serve alcohol. The venue we selected we need to provide our own alcohol and they provide the bartenders to serve it. We decided it wasn't worth the added expense. We posted information on our website letting our guests know that we are having a dry wedding and that they are not permitted to bring their own alcohol as this would violate the contract with the venue (since the bartenders are required to serve all alcohol.) Since we are having a fall wedding we are going with a non-alcoholic signature drink option of hot apple cider and one of our cake flavors will be a spice cake.

I do agree with the other poster that beer and wine may be a little strong for brunch. I would stick to a few signature drinks - mimosa, bloody mary's and bellinis. With a small guest list you really don't need to go overboard with it.

I would get an actual quote. I'm having a dry wedding because the cost of doing alcohol is pricy no matter what. And as you said you guys are on a tight budget and it may interfere a little bit with your plans. But what you could do is get an overall idea of who actually would drink because you said a quarter of the people you are inviting dont drink and if the majority of people don't drink then it could be a waste of money.
I would also ask you future wife her honest opinion about it, because she may persuade you against.

And not gonna lie, you could always pre-game before the wedding 😉

That's weird they would offer bellinis but not mimosas?

Mimosas are OJ and bubbly, and bellinis are peach puree which is a TON sweeter but also more expensive and more of a pain to get and make. That makes no sense.

That being said, go for option 3. It makes the most sense and doesn't make anyone mad like a cash bar (always a no no)

Maybe creating a signature drink with a cute name and then bear is my suggestion. Or because your wedding is small swing what the majority of the drinkers drink and doing it that way. Hope this helps to your idea list!