I know a lot of people have alcohol at their weddings, but I'm really on the fence.
When my fiance and I started planning our wedding we started no alchohol because his great aunt and uncle are sober and since they are honoring us with the gift of their first wedding ring set, we felt it appropriate to honor them by having a dry wedding.
Recently my soon to be brother-in-law got married and had a BYOB wedding. And seeing everyone relaxed, having fun, and drinking made my fiance start to question our plan to have a dry wedding.
I still want to have a dry wedding as we are not big drinkers and neither is my family. My fiance wants to do BYOB since that saves us the cost of alcohol.
I said I would only consent to it if everyone brought their coolers to the bar before the wedding and no alcohol was present before dinner, and have it served by a bar tender so as to not have guests get to drunk.This way we could still have the time after the ceremony when we are taking pictures to spend with his great aunt and uncle. Since at his brother's wedding they left as soon as the ceremony was over because many people had been drinking since before it started.
I would much rather just not have it at all, but I understand compromise.
Is it fair to have the rule that guests who bring their own alcohol store it behind the bar, wait until dinner, and then be served by a bar tender so as to not have any guests who are to drunk?