My fiancée had three bridesmaids who accepted BM role, then eventually backed out. 2 of whom never showed up to small bridal shower (the plan was the moms + fiancée + bridesmaids); the Maid of Honor, who has flexible schedule, worked instead. Then they gave her difficult time on dresses too.
Here's what was expected of BM's: attend shower dinner, buy $100 dress, show up. No time commitment re: decorations or planning.
After deciding to go as guests, we had to chase them for RSVP's.
But they still have the nerve to say "let me know if you need anything". They have absolutely no idea how much they hurt my fiancée.
I feel like these girls should be disinvited. It makes no sense to try and slim down list to 100, denying +1's for people or leaving out people we'd like to come - with about 10 people (they're bringing partners and kids) who have been so disrespectful.
Any thoughts?