Allergies, food sensitivities and dietary restriction.

Typically it's included on the RSVP card.

I would be shocked if any caterer carries epi, since you need a prescription to obtain one, and they aren't cheap. Anyone who is anaphylactic will carry one themselves. I never go anywhere I'll be eating without mine.

I put a note on our RSVP cards to let us know of any dietary restrictions on the card itself, so we would see it when they send it back.

We put a line for them on the RSVP cards. Caterers absolutely don’t have epi pens on them. Epi pens are not used for all allergic reactions and are given by prescription only.

We did online RSVP’s and asked our guests to notify us in the comments section of our response page.

I’d also make sure you have some sort of menu at the wedding, even if it’s a buffet. This will help guest identify if anything your serving may have something they are allergic to in it. (Sorry for the double post, since I couldn’t edit!)

Hi, my invitation only had three parts, the invite, the rsvp, and a card that stated for further info to go to the website. The website asks people with allergies/restrictions to email me and my name is hyperlinked with my email. I then notify the caterer. Don’t forget that a seating chart maybe needed so the caterer is able to locate the guests with the allergies/restrictions.

I think Alecia has a great idea. I didn’t accommodate food allergies or dietary restrictions at my venue because our families didn’t suggest they had any.

Had we had our vegan friend attend, I would’ve asked the caterer to do a vegan meal so she could eat, but I didn’t make it a point to ask everyone about their dietary restrictions because I thought it was unnecessary.

It’s not your job to keep track of everyone else’s dietary issues. If I can’t eat mushrooms, I don’t put mushrooms on whatever it is I’m eating. If I’m unsure If the meal contains it, I’ll reach out to the host because I’m an adult. I don’t think it’s your job as the host to have to bend over backwards to have to meet everyone else’s dietary restrictions when it may be a choice they make. I think you should definitely encourage them to contact you if they have some though so that you can make them all feel welcome. But I wouldn’t open that door to everyone.

They’re adults. If they can’t tell you what it is the need the

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I didn’t ask about anyone’s diet restrictions. But my future sister in law has celiac disease and can absolutely not have any gluten. I asked their grandma to make her a special meal to bring. I know I have a few vegetarians coming but we will have food that they can eat as well.

My website is set so when people RSVP they have to specify whether they have dietary restrictions or allergies & what that would be if they select yes.

😕 i asked each and every person what their allergy was and written it down....i didnt know about the website thing. But yes the website sounds easier.

I carry a epi pen and there not cheap i put my menú on cards and sent them out with the invations cause i have lota of Food allergies

I am having a buffet style menu and don't have a ton of options for vegetarians, and half the menu is seafood. I believe that this will be expected considering the venue and the destination location, but I did post the entire menu on the wedding website so people could plan accordingly.

ETA- When picking the menu, we picked out of the options the restaurant gave us in a conference call with me, FH, his parents, and my parents to make sure they thought the food would generally be acceptable to the most amount of people. Other then that we are not doing anything special in terms of the menu.

The only food allergy I'm accommodating is my nieces and that is partly because I just don't like seafood and partly because she can react to just being around it. Now one of my grandmothers have a nut allergy if she chooses to come she can chose to eat a different flavor cake that is not chocolate peanut butter.

I would be shocked if any caterer carries epi. We need to check all foods provider details includes recipes, guidelines, and more

Like others, I am asking on my RSVP cards. I don't think any of that belongs on the STD. My menu is set, but if anything beyond what I know based on guest list needs accommodating, we will do it with final discussion with the caterer. I did attend one wedding in a botanical garden where there was a table with epipens available (lots of yellowjackets and bees were around) but the couple were both doctors and treated the situation with an abundance of caution. I agree that generally anyone with such an allergy would have something like that themselves.

I have serious food allergies but I know what I can and can't have, what type foods to be sketical of, and what to do if I begin to have a reaction. I assume most adults with serious allergies are the same, or how would they eat out?

I feel like if you ask everyone on the STDs you open yourself up to people who are trying to stay away from gluten or don't like peppers...

We didn’t ask on the RSVPs because like PP, we didn’t want to open that door to every single person who doesn’t like something. I went to a wedding where my friend, who admitted she had no serious allergies, put in a menu restriction/request just because she didn’t like what was being served (can’t remember what tho). We knew H’s step-brother is gluten free so we had that handled. We only had one other person reach out to us after invites went out to let us know she was vegan and gluten intolerant. We had the caterer prepare them separate meals and indicated on their place card a different icon so the waiting staff would see.

I am in the boat that if an adult, or a child with a parent coming, has a serious allergy, they will reach out. If I was deathly allergic to tomatoes, for example, I would reach out regardless of whether or not there’s a line on the RSVP card. I wouldn’t leave it up to chance. One of my really good friends is allergic to eggs and nuts; she is very careful when she is invited to any weddings, parties, etc.

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Exactly (the last half) this. My nieces mom immediately reminded me that my niece will react to just being around, not even eating just being in the same room as certain seafood items. Then my brother reminded me as well. Now both of them know I can't stand seafood but wanted to be sure that their daughter would be safe and since they have been broken up the last 10 years they both made sure to remind me. We haven't even toured any venues yet much less sent out any information on our wedding. But once they each learned I was engaged they took the first opportunity to remind me about her allergies.

I have it as part of the RSVP process and indicated that people can email us/call us with changes if they ever need to, to be safe.

Our servers will also be asking at the tables to make sure they get the right meals because they said sometimes people decide last minute they now have an allergy or just never tell you in advance. You can talk to your venue about something like this as well, if you're worried.