My bf and I have been together for almost 4 years. We just recently had a son about 6 months ago. He’s always thought it was a good idea for us to move in with one another, but I’ve always said that I didn’t want to live with a man before being married to him. He’s always respected how I felt, so we continued to live separately. That all changed when we had our son, mainly bc it’s easier and more convenient for me to get the help I need from him. Plus, I do enjoy us all being under one roof.
He’s been telling my mom and other family members for about 2 years now, that he was gonna marry me. But here we are almost 4 years in and no ring. We’ve discussed it several times since my son has been born. About 6 months ago I started really pressing the issue and he reassured me that it would happen soon. In my mind, soon means within 3 months tops. I just knew he was gonna propose before 2022 ended and he didn’t. So a day before NYE we had another talk. I told him that I wanted to end things bc he hadn’t proposed yet. It caught him off guard and And he said he hadn’t done it yet bc he knows that I want a nice quality ring, not anything cheap. I felt like he was making an excuse so I told him he can just get me a less expensive ring (I’m thinking $1k-2k). We could always upgrade my ring in a couple of years.
He eventually says it will happen before our son’s first bday, which is in June. I stressed to him that I’m not waiting that long for an engagement and he reassured me that it will happen before then, he just had to give me a long date range so that I won’t suspect when he’ll pop the question.
My mom has also been in my ear the last 6 months constantly reminding me that we aren’t married yet and that I’m a live in girlfriend. Although I’ve only been living with him for 3-4 months, she insists that I’ll be a live in gf forever if I continue to live with him. For context, my mother is very old school and does not believe in shacking up at all.
My question is, am I being foolish for believing that he will propose to me soon? Is my mom right? Should i just move out (I was living with my parents before) and see if this will get him to move faster? I honestly don’t know what to do