Alternate title for my stepmom

What about “Other Mother of the bride”??? Would that offend your bio mom ?

View Quoted Comment Unfortunately yes... I've even considered mother of the bride 2
She is dead set on stepmom of the bride

I think I would just skip having them for the parents and only give them to bridesmaids and groomsmen. I would get something else for your parents/stepmom.

What about Extra Mom or Bonus mom .... does it have more to do with her replacing your mom as your dads spouse or her feeling like she’s additionally being replaced as a mother ? I think you guys need to have a heart to heart. You don’t want to hurt your mom but she also can invalidate your relationship with your stepmother because of her feelings.

View Quoted Comment That’s a really good idea or get your stepmom a different gift.

View Quoted Comment Can’t ***.

View Quoted Comment Absolutely. This whole issue can be avoided pretty easily by giving your parents a necklace or face mask or paying for their makeup or something.

View Quoted Comment It has everything to do with my mom feeling like my step mom likes to overstep and control. Her favorite thing to say is "she didnt give birth to you I did"

View Quoted Comment I tossed that around too. I actually like bonus mom. I'm dumbfounded that this is such a hard decision for me

View Quoted Comment Speaking of the last part of your comment. I tried to have a sit down heart to heart and my mom doesn't want any part of it.

View Quoted Comment The more I think about it the more I like that idea

View Quoted Comment That’s rough. You don’t want any bad vibes on or before your wedding. I’d just do what pp suggested and give her something else to keep the peace and your sanity.

Your mom is being unreasonable, but personally, I've never liked gifts given to the bridal party/family that were specific to the roles in the wedding. Reusable gifts (like tumblers) are awesome, but it's so much better when they just say someone's name on them and not their relationship to the couple--bridesmaids were you friends before, during, and after your wedding, for example, so it's so much easier to just do names.

View Quoted Comment That's what the lady doing my suggested.

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This way no one is hurt or offended. We gave our bridesmaids/groomswoman a wine glass and our groomsmen/bride's man a mug that looked like a baseball bat. My parents got a collage shaped like a heart with photos of my siblings, my parents, and I. We gave my mother-in-law one of our engagement photos. The photo was one we took with a tree she planted in honor of her father. We gave my father-in-law a framed photo from his dream trip to Alaska that he went on with my husband and brother-in-law.

Mother of the Bride is an honored guest, not a member of the wedding party. Just give them to Bridesmaids and Groomsmen. It isn't necessary, or traditional, to give gifts to your parents at wedding time. But if you do, make them different individual things. After the wedding, it is customary to give a nice almost of pictures, or framed ones. Yo could have a nice evening leatherette album embossed with MOB title on the cover. And use step mom's name or whatever you want on the other one. If you call them Tammy and Dad, put that on. If you want something giving her a role, do that. That is a gift not presented in front of anyone else, and it is not your mom's business. I agree with the poster above, and think that since I and everyone I know throw out or never use anything again that says bridesmaid or Maid of honor, no matter whether it is jewelry, a glass or mug, or a shirt, that anything should have a person's first name, or nothing . But that is up to you. But having any gift that is going to get someone upset or competitive just is not worth doing. So just do them for the bridal party.

I agree that just skipping the personalized gifts altogether would be easier, but if you really want to, why not just have their actual names written out inside of “mother of the bride”?

I got a coffe (like yeti) mug with my initial in a circle from a friend (she makes them) in my favorite color.

My stepmom once had a verbal slip and called me her "significant daughter" - and we've used that term a LOT, since. She's my "significant mother," my stepmom, or "the nice one". (...My mother and I no longer have a relationship.)

There are lots of fun terms, why don't you talk about it with her? Since you two are so close, I'm sure you can find some meaningful way to express your relationship!